As A Groomsman, How Do I Maintain A Positive Attitude At A Miserable Wedding? ?
I am a groomsman in a wedding this week. The bride is a real insecure bit#@. I wish I could find better words, but that’s just the way it is. All the groomsman feel this way, the grooms father even made the statement “what did I do for my son to marry the devil” The bride has a 48 hour agenda that tells everyone where to be on the 15 minute mark. She has told us that not only is the groom unable to go on Saturday night (the night before the wedding), but so are we (the wedding party). She has the wedding getting up at 5:45 a.m Sunday morning for pictures. To top it all off, her registry was filled with personal items (items that only she could use). The grooms wedding party is driving over 14 hours to get to the wedding, and we feel like we are being corralled around being treated like second class citizens-not to mention this whole thing is costing us all a huge amount of cash. So basically, the wedding party is about to “blow a gasket”. The flip side to this coin is that the groom is a lifetime friend a regardless of how I feel about his bride to be, I still want him to have good day. So how do I regain a positive attitude for the wedding party and keep spirits high? Any suggestions would be most helpful.
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-Not going out the night before the wedding is not an unreasonable request. There is nothing worst that druken GM and grooms puking and feelling hungover and looking like crap the day of the wedding.
On the other issues, well, some brides do exhibot unreasonable behavior. This is your friend. Put up with it for a day. Think about it this way, is not your balls that are being cut off.
Good luck
One way to look at this is that you don’t have to keep asking each other “What do we do next?” I know its hard to do, but try and find the silver lining in all of this. Even if its just “In 6 hours & 32 minutes I’m outta here!” BTW, I agree with lordreith’s mantra!
Keep saying to yourself,”This is not my wedding. This is not my dire fate. This is not the end of MY life. This too shall pass.” And drink yourself into insensibility as soon as convenient.
You need to suck it up, smile and be polite and well mannered. While she may be this way, this is who your friend wishes to marry. Be supportive and keep a happy face
make sure your hotel room is near a bar. I am sorry but tats all and bring a fun date, do not follow her schedule to the T. Just the best that you can.
do the deed, get the pics taken before and after the wedding then when the reception starts & the alcohol is flowing hit the road home or hang out with your women and Just be”occupied”
Sounds like you are dealing with a Bridezilla ! Just keep your cool and remember you are doing this for your longtime friend not his bride.
Do your best to ignore her and support your friend in the manner in which he deserves. You will be ok, it is only one day of your life.
If doing what the b*^&^% oops I mean bride wants makes the Groom happy just deal with it. She is his headache.
Think happy thoughts!
have a few drinks!!
Well, just remember that at the end of the day you are through being controlled by her ~ unlike your poor friend! Weddings are *always* most stressful right before the event. But the big day will fly by, then you are pretty much through with this girl.
To make things easier on him, try to stick to her “agenda.” After the reception, you can all go out together, blow off a little steam, and thank the powers that be that you aren’t stuck with this woman. Best of luck to you!!!!
i had to be a groomsman at a friends wedding, the bride was just like what u just described the way i kept my spirits high was (this is in my case) looking forward to getting action from some of the RANDY A$$ women that attend weddings that are single… if you are married or in a relationship then u can keep ur spirits high by remembering that no matter how large of a bridezilla she has turned into that your friend is still very happy because he is marrying the girl of his dreams… oOoOo and don’t over drink at the wedding man, alchy is like truth serum u mite say something when toasting that you really didn’t want to lol…
First of all, just remind yourself that after the wedding, you will not be subjected to the bride’s “plans” anymore. Second of all, because you are all such great friends of the groom, you are doing this for HIM. Just think how happy he’ll be to know that his pals are with HIM 100% for this day to go off without a hitch (because he’ll hear about it from the bride for the entire honeymoon and years ever after) about anything HIS friends did to mess up HER day.
Good luck!
Yikes. Save your friend man. Save him. Let him know how you feel. Maybe he doesn’t mind marrying a controlling b*tch but you will not be controlled. You love him and want to stand by him but if you want to go out you will. I can’t believe he wants to marry her. I bet he wouldn’t listen and would probably pick her over you but at least you could tell him. You probably will not be friends after the wedding anyway if she has her way. He will only be friends with her friends that she can control.
Do what you want man. If she yells at you just laugh at her. Talk to her with your friend present so he can see how nuts she is.
Nothing wrong with having an organized wedding but there is a limit to the amount of bridezilla anyone can take.
Laugh all day. Enjoy the free food and drinks. You are in control of you. She can not control you or your emotions. Don’t let her.
Well think of it this way, it’s not you marrying this woman
Yeahhh!
But seriously, all of the groomsmen needs to talk to your long time friend about this and if that doesn’t help, just remember its only for a day or so after that you don’t have to deal with her or anyone or anything at all. As for as spending money like crazy this has to stop…times are hard no crazy BRIDEZILLA should make you spend money like that. For you to regain a positive attitude just keep telling yourself you are only doing this for your friend, and in a few days its all going tobe over with.