Can Anger Management Change Someone’s Life?
I’m 18 years old and I’m known to be grumpy around my house; my family tells me not to be so grumpy and go out and make some friends for a change (which I find hard, but not because of my problem)
The issue that I have is that I don’t like it when my mom supports me because I take it as an insult, I feel that I can handle my own goals and her helping me shows that I’m weak, I also feel that she doesn’t give me any space, which in return causes me to disrespect her. Puberty?
I’m also grumpy at work because I take a lot of jokes the wrong way and most of the time I laugh them off but other times I can’t get over it and I end up starting a fiss. (the guys at my job don’t joke like normal people do, they say completely irrelevant things that tick me off, and instead of getting it go I sometimes go to sleep with frustration)
I think this is damaging me mentally and someone told me it might be from depression, I don’t know if I am but I’m home way too much and I can’t think of one friend to go out with (once again not from my personality but simply because I can’t make close friends). The only time I’m really stable is at school when I’m around a lot of people.
I need a girlfriend!
so my question is, do you recommend anger management for me? If so where can I find classes in L.A.? Is it costly? I don’t want to spend much at all, I just need some advice.
thanks!
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I don’t know about anger management. I used to feel the same excact way, and every once and a while the feeling comes back. I think, because you mentioned you can’t make close friends, that you have security issues, I did. I didn’t want to trust nobody, so I ended up pushing them away when I got too close. Maybe something happened that you need to address and get over. Once you do that you will live a much healthier lifestyle and you’ll be more enjoyable.
well i think you need to give your mom a break, she is just being mom. if you feel as though you are so independent, move out, then you will have your space. as for the jokes at work, i think those guys are just assholes and you should find another job, maybe one that relates to a hobby you can take up. fill your time with things you like to do and the depression will go away. finding a hobby, it will allow you to make new friends, increasing your chance of finding a girlfriend, more over, someone you will have something in common with. good luck
Anger management might be a good choice, but you should also see a doctor Tell them everything you said here and maybe they could check to make sure your chemical levels are good(It doesn’t hurt to check) You could also see a counselor. I have a friend that was put into a program to help him become socially successful. It sounds to me like your mother realy loves you and would be a good person to help you. At this point you might find it embarassing and awkward to talk to her about it, but I worked in a counselors office for 4 years and sat in on a lot of counseling sessions. if you can’t talk to your mom, write here a letter (show here what you wrote here) Ask her to help you find a professional to help you. As for a girlfriend, get yourself straightned out first and happy, then you can have a healthy relationship. If you go into a relationship expecting that some girl will fix you or improve you, then she will only dissapoint you and you will both end up hurt. Also, if you don’t go to your mom for support and help finding the right proffesional, try to walk in your Mom’s shoes for a minute, it’s hard on mothers when their little babies grow up and don’t realy need them any more. Give her a hug at the least and tell her that you appreciate what she’s trying to do but you want to stretch your wings and fly.
Good luck!
Anger Mgmt can show you how to recognize when you are angry and strategies for controlling it. Learning to control it is just a tool to keep you out of jail and keep the peace in society though. What you really need to do is get a counselor and find out what’s causing/caused it.
Letting your mom help you isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of great strength of character when you allow others to guide or teach you. It sounds like you might have some issues with her though if you feel like she’s not giving you space.
You’re exactly right that it’s damaging you mentally. This is a time in your life to be socializing and learning how to interact with the rest of the world. Your existence depends on the existence of everyone else.
anger managemnt can help alot. you need to de program your mind from voilent acts and outburst. those types of behavior will lead you down a road of disaster, so its better to change it the soon as you can. if you can’t make a class, buy tapes, audio books cd’s, look on internet sites that have info on anger managembt. I believe the buddhist websites have alot of anger control techniques.but do something. keeping a journal and releasing your angry thoughts on paper REALLY helps.