Can Someone Teach Me Some Anger Management Tips?

Hi, I used to have insane anger problems as well and learned later that they were symptoms of depression–and it’s a common depression symptom actually–so you may NOT be depressed but could feel angry and out of control angry a lot.
I know that maybe hard to grasp but even then–you need to learn some basic skills such as learning what sets you off. That’s a “big” one and you may not know until you go to councelling–most schools offer it for free–just ask your guidance councellor.
In most countries it’s confidential as well, so just ask–and say you are asking for a friend to find out the rules.
If you are in Canada–it is free and it’s confidential from all schools. Probably in the USA too and most other G8 countries.
Try breathing deep from 1 to 10, deep breathes each time you feel yourself GETTING agitated.
Take yourself OUT of the situation–if you feel yourself getting agitated–leave–LEAVE do not pass go, do NOT collect $200, just get yourself AWAY from the area.
You don’t OWE anyone NO ONE an explaination for now–just get the HECK out of there!
If you don’t know WHY you get agitated–then you do need to LEARN what sets you off and THEN you can figure out when you need to leave.
Hormones can’t be helping, you are correct but BUT if you have been like since you were 6–you need to learn tools to help yourself. Before you get into real criminal trouble.
Take the test here, and feel free to print it and take it to your family doctor–OR your guidance councellorhttp://www.depression-helper.com/symptom…

well everyone gets mad and out of control at some point its natural. however, you should take some time to think about it. is getting mad at the situation really going to solve anything? when you’re in a situation and you’re about to get mad try not to get mad right away and think about what you’re doing or about to do because you could just end up hurting yourself in the end. an example: when my boyfriend does something that upsets me i always tend to get mad and start yelling but then i realize i just did that for nothing i shouldve just thought about the situation and understood what happend and coped with it. getting mad won’t solve anything.

i jus think that the ppl who make me angry are way too stupid and try not to do the same to him so that i dont become stupid too. also i think its much more satisfying to just smile when someone tries to fight with u and to make them even more angrier….reverse psychology?

Take a couple of deep breaths; fill the lower part of your lungs first, THEN the chest. If you can’t deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent you from allowing yourself to become angry, in the first place) it is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, perhaps by walking away later, and bellowing your rage and/or frustration. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards. Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. Let yourself feel the burning energy of that anger, and visualise it, as vividly as possible, as a hot flame cleansing you. It can help to have someone you can talk to.
For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. “But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: ‘Those who anger you, conquer you.’ It’s basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it’s like they’re controlling you. When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line.” Try saying to yourself, in your mind: “I am fire! I am ice!”. Repeat for as long as it takes for you to calm down sufficiently. Anger management is addressed in much more detail than can be included here, in section 4, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and practice daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 11, 2, 2.c, or 2.i
Most people find the progressive muscular relaxation simple, and it can be done in several minutes. Others prefer to repeat a word, like “easy” in their minds, or a short phrase, and focusing your attention on your breath is another technique. You will know from the ease of use, and effect, which suits you best. The EFT, in section 53, is worth trying, too. A variant of Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective, is on page N, of section 6, and I use it before the relaxation techniques, because I have found that it makes them quicker to employ, and more effective. These will enable you to emotionally centre yourself, when practiced regularly. Yoga, and/or T’ai Chi can also help you become a calmer, more self controlled person, who is less influenced by the behaviour of others.