February 14, 2010
Do You Think Children And Adults With Low Confidence/self Esteem Have Their Parents To Blame?
Do you think self esteem/confidence issues are affected by your upbringing and how you are treated by your parents? Or do you think there is no correlation?
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Comments on Do You Think Children And Adults With Low Confidence/self Esteem Have Their Parents To Blame?
Oh I’m sure there’s correlation if you have enough data. Your upbringing can determine this to an extent, but a good portion of it has to do with your genes. Also people other than your parents, as they have said, can influence this.
i think so. my parents have never said anything positive about me, at least not in front of me. but they ALWAYS criticize me. it’s not even helpful criticism. their way of showing affection is pointing out all of my bad qualities (and even making up some). everytime i talk to them they talk about how i need to be really different. they’ve tried to have complete control over me (i’m 18 and they still dont want me to make any decisions on my own. not even on the clothes i wear. i still do anyway). since i was little, they’ve tried to prevent me from having a social life. ive always had huge self esteem issues. although i know they’re just being ignorant, im never satisfied with any part of my life (my looks, my personality, my relationships, my talents/hobbies, the way i speak, my preferences, etc.–> all things they criticize).
fortunately i have several very close friends that help see myself in a more positive way and help me deal with my parents. but because ive been more exposed to my parents’ opinions of me, their views r pretty much taking over.
so in my case, my parents are to blame and im sure thats the case with many ppl who have low self esteem. but i think that no matter what, the way parents treat their kids will affect their self esteem.
Judging from my past life and childhood experiences my parents were the top contributing factor to me becoming the reclusive adult I am now. My peer group only added ‘fuel to the fire”, school was living hell, and being from the ‘wrong side of the tracks” finished the job for me. All this also contributed to my other than honorable discharge from the military service.
well yea part of it is from the parents esp when they use slapping and talking sh*t abt them when they do something wrong and when they ignore their children and don’t lsn to them…………..but also the school and classmates are a gd influence
its mainly cause by your peers, parents have a lot less influence on that than your classmates and friends