Does Anger Management Work? Do You Think My Boyfriend Needs Professional Help?

Having just read your previous question I think you both need help. Yes, his anger and aggression was no doubt frightening for you, but you too were violent. I get how angry his comment about your mother must have made you, but hitting him is wrong. He only threatened you (still, very wrong) but he didn’t actually do anything to you, although his other behaviour was violent and intimidating. You, on the other hand, assaulted him. You don’t say if he’s acted like this before. He was certainly a jerk for standing you up and for the way he spoke to you. If it’s a one off I wouldn’t think he needs any sort of professional help. He was wrong and was an absolute a$$hole and based on that you have to decide if you want to stay with him or not. His behaviour was emotionally abusive and if you are really afraid for you safety then you must leave.
But you may need some help. I don’t mean this in a bad way – let me explain. You say your mother was abused. It is not unusual for daughters of abused mothers to subconsciously seek relationships with similar men. I’m not a psychologist so I don’t understand how or why this is but it happens that girls that grew up in abusive households often end up in abusive relationships themselves. If you seek the help of a psychologist you may realise the signs before it’s too late and not end up in a relationship like this again. You also seem to have problems controlling your anger and lash out physically – again, you can get help for this. You could also consider couples counselling where you two can talk about your issues in a neutral setting and see if this episode is something you can get over or if it’s a deal-breaker.
As I said before, he was wrong in the way he treated you. If you really don’t want this to happen again (because there’s every chance it will) or are afraid it will get worse and he will hurt you, you must leave. The flat is not important – surely there are people who love you and will help you in this if you choose to leave. If you don’t have friends or family you can turn to there are shelters and such that can give you a bed until you find somewhere to live.
I hope everything works out for you….
EDIT:
I just looked at your past questions and I can’t help but feel you are a troll. I hope I’m wrong, but it just doesn’t add up. Is he your boyfriend or fiancee? In one question you say you want to start a family and are waiting for him to propose but in earlier questions you ask about Thailand for your honeymoon and what to buy you fiancee for valentines. Either way you make no mention of past violent behaviour from him, so if you are telling the truth it seems to be a one off, and if you are trolling, you really do need help and you shouldn’t waste well meaning peoples time…

Personally I think life is too short to put up with that but I guess it depends on how much your willing to take. Your not married so I would walk away but can you let him go and can you bear to see him with another woman? I think anger management is always a good thing because it usually takes a third person to make the person with the anger problem see how they truly are. Good luck and put yourself first because if your not happy, it will truly never work.