Does my husband need anger management?

Sounds like he needs help.

yea…instead of a jumper he should get a therapist and a punching pillow…..

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Yeah, he might have an issue,and unfortunatley the next time he throws something like that, it can injure that baby. I would get him to get help. If not, leave him.

The best way to get him to seek help is to offer to go with him. It may be that he’s stressed or that he misses you… Or something else.

Talk to a therapist together. Don’t point a finger so much as offering to bring your relationship to a higher level.

Good luck.

If he’s throwing toys. because a young child keeps waking him up, then yes he’s to control his temper. I understand raising children can be stressful, but there’s never a point where you should get that angry.

he will eventually end up hurting your baby or you,maybe not on purpose, if he doesn’t get help with this issue………..

Make it clear if he doesn’t get help, you are taking the child and leaving…for the protection of both of you (and mean it).

Do not risk your own or your child’s safety over this. If your husband isn’t willing to deal with his problem, then let him be angry alone. Y’alls well being is worth too much to risk staying with someone who could truly turn abusive.

He should talk to his doctor about his anger before it’s too late.

You know sometimes you need to take them to a mental institute just to get checked out because my son’s father we are no longer together because I was afraid of the same thing and guess what it turned out he was bipolar and that has to be controlled by medication and it is tough to live with someone who starts screaming and throwing stuff but really get him some help and just talk to him about it.

Such is not normal or proper behavior, even when frustrated by a child. Keyword – child (but who is which? Your son or your husband? Hmmmm)

um…try seeing if you can lower his stress levels this might help his anger.

His anger can be controlled .Try consulting a good anger management counsellor.

He should attend some anger managment classes. Tell it would be the best thing for the both of you.

Obviously you need to take your son out of that environment. If you are waiting for the right answer look inside the common sense part of your brain. When he gets help you could arrange a reconciliation if you love him. Your first priority is to protect your son. He cant protect himself.

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This is a bad thing for both of you…you need to work in peace, and if your husband is working, have you given any thought to getting a babysitter so your husband can sleep at night? It sounds that if this is an isolated reaction, he may have just been overly tired and really just lost it…something we are all capable of without needing anger management..and you don’t want to feel resentful or worry that he will do it again. If you husband is usually an easy going guy who just lost his cool.. I would try to get a baby sitter to help take off some of the stress who can get up with the boy at night if necessary…Now if this is just another one of his tempertantrums, then, definetly get some help for him or tell him your concerns to protect your son, your husband, and you.

No, but let him read this question and the replies you get and tell him you’re concerned. He’ll get the picture.

yes, or he is bound for jail. He has some serious issues that needs to be nipped now before he does something he regrets. He hits your kid, he needs his a$$ kicked.

i think the best thing for you to do right now is talk to him. if your son keeps waking up, it can take a toll on the most patient of parents (i have one that wakes up constantly and sometimes i just have to walk away) throwing something in anger is just pure frustration. maybe he needs a break from the ‘night shift.’ i know that my dear man and myself take turns when the going gets rough and we know when one another needs a break. talk to him first and see how he’s coping. my guess is he is not coping very well with the disrupted sleep and then go from there. good luck

Please express yourself…if not for yourself then do it for your son…You can’t raise a healthy happy child in an enviornment like that and if anything were to happen to your son…You would never forgive yourself…Your Husband definitely has some anger management issues that the both of you need to address…that was a warning sign that maybe your husband is a bit too overwhelmed…Whatever the case may be…Get help and now.

KICK HIM IN THE NUTS AND DRAG HIM TO A THERAPSIT

My ex was such a jerk at night time when the kids woke up. He is a great guy when well rested as far as being a parent goes. He is infinitely patient with the kids, and enjoys playing with them and spending time with them doing things that just frustrate me if I have to do it. However, at night time, it was a totally different story.

He just couldn’t handle dealing with the kids at night. He is the kind of person who didn’t wake up well and was a monster without enough sleep.

One thing that helped me deal with having small babies at home when we were together was the realization that for us, sharing “equally” in the child care, didn’t necessarily mean doing exactly the same thing for exactly the same amount of time. Each of us had our strengths and weaknesses. For him, obviously night time was a weakness…he was nuts and couldn’t handle things at night. So I just did that. But truthfully, daytime playing and carrying on with…going to the park with etc…he was way better at that than me, and he took on the lion’s share of those responsibilities.

Once I stopped trying to make caring for our children perfectly equal (ie: I got up last time, you get up this time)…things went much more smoothly.

That being said, it is way overkill to have to throw a toy or anything hard enough to dent a wall. There is a problem there, if his reaction to being “bothered” by his own wife and child, manifests itself with that much physical aggression. If I were HIM, I’d want to get past that and think about why I am acting that way, and if I were YOU, I’d want to know that I was safe and secure too. Hopefully he sees that and gets some help, or at least just reevaluates his methods of response to stressful situations.

He does or he needs to find a way to control it. My husband was when we first started dating. His mom bred in him to be angry. I have talked with him about. We would get in fights all the time. Then one day, he decided to change. He got really angry and he felt like he was having a heart attack and he just said it’s not worth it. From now on, the only time I am going to get angry is when someone messes with my family. I haven’t seen him that angry since. You need to have a talk with him. You need to tell him, “what is you lose control with our child and hurt him really bad.” “Aren’t you scared that you might hurt him accidentally?” Saying this may wake him up and smell the coffee. Being angry doesn’t do anything but make you feel bad and your not going to be happy until you let it all go.

He defintely needs help. Let him know that you love him but you are scared that he went too far. Tell him for the love of his family, he needs to talk to a counselor. ASAP

Please ask him to start count 1, 2, 3 when he becomes anger. Tell him politely that it would harm himself and may land up in problem.

I am sufferrer too like your husband. Thank god I have never been so barbaric to my kids. There is no way you can help the situation without taking medial help. Give maximum possible time to your husband. TIME can helpyou to encourage him to take help of therapist.

Also be careful. Don’t talk negative to him. Specially nagging can add more to your problems.

I don’t know but I hope you can get him help. I have the same problem. My husband can’t control his anger either.Our children have learned from him. Now I am seeking help for my 9 yr old son who can’t control his anger. My 7 yr old daughter is constanly scratching her 4 yr old brothers making them bleed. Is there anger mangement for kids?

Professional help sounds like it might help. But your husband needs to be full willing to seek help. I went through 5 different anger managments and got nothing out of them. When i was ready, the last one helped so much. He has to want to change before anything will help. Good luck