Hi! Can You Help Me Set Some Goals To For Being Social And Confident?

Good idea. I’m also shy and trying to do the same thing (making slow but steady progress). I’m going to assume that you’re painfully shy, so here’s some suggestions, but they’re just that, suggestions; don’t take them as hard and fast guidelines, because only you know what you’re comfortable with and it’s best to take baby steps (or else you’ll possibly get discouraged):
*Smile
*Say “hello” to a close acquaintance
*Say “hello” to a stranger
*Compliment an acquaintance
*Compliment a stranger
*Learn to maintain eye contact; especially when listening (while talking you can let your gaze wander a bit more), but don’t stare either (it’s fine to glance away when the other person glances away)
*Make small-talk with a cashier
*Participate here and there in conversations with close acquaintances/friends (preferably in a small group of three or less)
*Accept an opportunity you might have dismissed previously (such as an offer to go for a drink)
*Start a conversation with an acquaintance (if it helps with your confidence, think of a topic beforehand and plan out the conversation)
*Voice your opinion on something with an acquaintance
*If there’s anyone new at work/school, introduce yourself (“Hey, you new around here? I’m ….”)
*Discuss something you read about in the newspaper the day earlier
*Start a conversation with a stranger
*Participate here and there in group discussions (say, five people or more)
*Attend a social event (even if it’s just dropping by the pub and making small talk with a random person)
*’Lead’ a social event – start trying to be the ‘life’ of the party
*Approach some women (or men, depending on sexual preference)
Once you’re comfortable with the last few goals, you’d have pretty much overcome your shyness chances are, in fact you’d be much more confident than the average person.
Also, it’s recommended that shy people take at least one social risk per day. Don’t beat yourself up if you have trouble at first, just rather try again later or move onto an easier goal and return to the goal you had trouble with at a later date. And every time you succeed, give yourself a silent pat on the back. If you, for example, talk to a stranger (something you’ve never done before) and survive it okay, and feel great about it, it’ll be easier next time because your mind associates socialising with a positive emotion (elation, joy, pride, etc.)
If you make a mistake, that’s okay. I’ve made mistakes, especially when first trying to come out of my shell. It doesn’t take people long to forget embarrassing moments… they’ll probably just be surprised (and quite possibly happy?) that you came out of your shell and tried anyway. Reward yourself for the ATTEMPT, not the outcome so much.

Practice being proactive. You have already answered part of your own question – talk to a new person each day. The next step is to just take action.
If this is too much to do, you can talk baby steps, such as saying hello to a new person each day.
And even if that is too much to do, you can take either smaller steps such as just making eye-contact and smiling to a new person each day.
The key is to do something to improve everyday so you can improve you confidence each time. After you go through enough experience, you’ll start to believe in yourself, not care so much about what other people think, and have fun interacting with other people.

Ok, I can understand your problem as I had that myself. Here’s a few tips from my own experience.
From the sounds of it you’re young and so probably still at school, so I would say this:
1. Move your seat in the classroom. Randomly pick a slightly different seat (though perhaps not one near people who you don’t want to know.)
2. Try working with other people more, maybe make a comment, offer to help if they get stuck. Just be generally there and don’t be a quiet mouse. Not saying you have to talk loudly or anything just don’t shrink into the background, it’s easy to get ignored.
3. At lunch break smile if anyone looks at you, maybe hang around near some people who you might like to know.
4. Don’t be afraid that people will take advantage of you. Even if it takes a couple of days to do it just pluck up a bit of courage and ask someone if they mind if you hang around. The first time will probably be scary, but if they say yes just hold through it… even if you chicken out later on they wont think it so weird if you turn up a second time and it will be easier.
5. Do you have hobbies? Play an instrument? Are good at sport? It doesn’t matter what you can do, look out for places to practice. If you can play a musical instrument maybe join a band? (school band?) if you can’t, maybe try learning an instrument?
I hope this has helped a little. I know it’s tough when you’re naturally shy but if you can get to know just a few other people often they’ll introduce you to more people. As long as you don’t do weird stuff (which doesn’t sound at all like you anyway) they’ll probably decide they like you and you’ll get invited to hang out at ‘social gatherings’. It may take a while, it took me a long time. Patience is the key though. Don’t rush or push in. Just sorta hang around and try and be friendly.
Good luck.

read alot of self help books but most importently put what you read in practice
dont be too hard on your self its not your fault you are an introverted person but with that being said dont ever give up changing you self for the better.
no self help books are not for poor misrable sobs it changed my life in great many ways and im sure they can change yours if you just read a few

1. Smile (even if it’s a forced smile, Smile!)
2. Remember peoples names (A persons name is the most important thing to that person. Use the persons name when talking to them.
3. Think in terms of the other person (even if you have no interest in the ‘thing’ they do, ask a question that allows them to talk about what interests them.. ) My friend love collecting toy cars.. Strange i know..
however I always remember to ask him if he has got hold of any new or rare item, he thinstalks for a good hour, happily, and always goes off with a smile on his face.
If you can complete these, you will find that you well on your way..
I promise if you can do this you will see results within talking to 3 people.

Baby steps!
1) Smile at people
2) Ask someone the time
3) Say more than “hello” to a clerk at a store (they have to be nice to you )
4) When asked “how are you?” elaborate. (don’t just say good)
5) Flirt with someone!
Hope this helps =D Just take it slow and don’t get discouraged if people don’t respond well, some people are just jerks!