How Can I Change Then Way I Think And Have A Positive Attitude Like I Used To?

I can completely understand what you are feeling and I have been there and done that myself, I have a little still lingering but its nothing like how it was. I haven’t lost friends but I would be ‘out of touch’ for awhile and kind of be in my own cocoon for awhile. It is good to have “me” time and it is always good to be present and you need to stop and literally smell the roses and think about your life and yourself and what you have been doing and where you want to be going in the future.
I have a very spunky sparky personality and I try to keep the positive around me just because it’s a heck of a lot better than having the negative around you.
Stop and smell the roses and appreciate what is around you and what you have. Some don’t even have a mother or father to look to, or a roof over their head, or their situation is entirely worse. One thing I say to myself when I “think” things are bad or what I like to call ‘its the end of the world’ syndrome I say “It could always be worse.”
Something else you might do is make you a vision board, this is where it helps you spot out the things you want to do in life and it keeps you focused on the positive, it could anything you want, you can make it small or big. My boyfriends is more like a little list that’s on the wall in a place where he sees it everyday. Its about a list of 10 things, some are short term (this year) and some are longer term (a few years down the road or longer). Mine is a page in my journal that I write in, but I plan to use one of the 99 cent poster boards I bought and make a bigger one just for fun and it have a larger view of it where I can see it everyday.
Start saying a mantra to yourself everyday, I say mine in the morning, right before I start work I say three things to myself:
1. ‘All is well’
2. ‘The world is conspiring in your favor’
3. ‘Out of this experience, only good will come’
Prayer and/or meditation also helps, A LOT. Even meditating 5 mins does wonders! I know from personal experience, and when it comes to taking advantage of silence when I can that is what I do sometimes. Something else is you may want to start looking at reading books, not the huge ones that seem like they are converting you to another religion, some books are small yet simple and are to the point. One book I read little by little is Eckhart Tolle’s “A New Earth – Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose.” This book really helps you focus and find more of the inner you. It also makes you realize your habits, the good ones and the bad ones and it makes you more aware.
I have had some bottoms but literally I thought of my situation and how lucky I am despite all the bad that has happened to me, if you focus to much on the bad you miss the good. Yes, things will happen in life, but its how you handle it and how you react to it, is what’s important.

It starts with what you tell yourself.
Looking at what you say about how you used to be “I was happy, outgoing and had a lot of friends” try saying to yourself:
“I am happy, outgoing and have a lot of friends”
Say it to yourself, out loud, in the mirror when you wake up, before you go to bed at any point in the day when you feel down.
Would people laugh at you for doing this? Maybe. But no one has to know about this but you.
If you examine all the major self-help books, along with the autobiographies and biographies of the super successful, a common theme is saying positive things about one self.

Think positively. A positive attitude can change your whole outlook on life… for the better! Try to focus on the good things in life, instead of the bad. Here is a quote that might help you.
“Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to something else, it will come and rest on your shoulder.” -Thoreau
Like the quote says don’t stress and worry about being happy. That will only make you more depressed. So instead of worrying about being happy… just be happy!
If none of this helped try reading this book. Its called, The 4:8 Principle by Tom Newberry.
Hope this helped

Wow, I’m 47 and still have a problem with not giving myself enough credit when credit is due. I think you need to just talk to yourself and say”Wow,I am a good person. You can’t hang around the negative person and feel positive about yourself for they will bring you down. And there is all sorts of authors writing books to guide you through the rough spots.Think about that. Good luck

Awwww; you poor thing. *hugs*
Developing a positive attitude doesn’t just happen overnight- and you shouldn’t expect it to either. Instead of thinking of the past in a regretful kind of way (comparing your old self to your current self), you should look at your life now and notice the little details that make you happy. That’s a good way to start. [Don't worry. I'm not exactly an extremely outgoing or positive person either.]

I am in the same position as you. I use to be outgoing and always fun, and now everything’s just boring and I’m all shy. the first thing i did was go out with my friends, try and have fun. the more i got out and did stuff, i started to feel better about myself. make new friends, do stuff you enjoy. eventually you’ll be the same as you use too.<3

I have the same problem. I don’t think there is a simple solution unfortunately. I would suggest focusing on something constructive. Also try to find out what it is that gives you inner peace and focus on it. Another thing you could do is find other people who feel the same way and talk to them about it. Also, you might want to study up on the philosophy of the mind.

That is simple CHANGE YOU MIND they are your thoughts and when you realize you are thinking negative say next thought to yourself. It take time practise and vigilance. Also reading up on the subject will show you other techniques for keeping, and projecting positive attitudes

i think that it is easier to have a positive outlook on life if you live life like there is no tomorrow, don’t regret things, and do things you have never done before!

The key to having a happy and outgoing life is found in this problem:
love + life + forgivness + you = what you want
; ) it’s true. try it for yourself.
PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION!

honey, dont give up hope. hang around your mom and your dad. just think about the good things in life.
much love,
juliagulia

I think it’s your period. Girls get that way they get older, it’s just that stage of your life.

If tying me up naked and beating me will help you out, let me know and I’ll be there for you

turn off the computer and go do something

simple think of this…..for every min you spend in depression is a min youll never get back

Getting back to being positive attitude after things happen is a tough thing to do. Trust me and the more serious the thing was the more difficult it is to overcome. You have to try and concentrate on the positive things and not let anything negative push you back down. Try to be near your mom more so you are in a positive environment. If your dad keeps giving negative vibes or whatever try to brush them aside. I won’t lie it will be very hard, changing always is. Hang out with your friends and do fun things: go to a movie, skating, bowling, etc. If you feel like you’re going to go all negative feeling all of a sudden you can always try taking a deep breath. I know it’s simple but it helps me a lot sometimes. Keeping a diary is something else you could do. Talk to a friend about how you’re feeling can help too. Venting in any form helps relieve stress and emotions that are bugging you or even things that make you happy. I don’t know if this will help you or not but a lot of it is advice I’ve been given in my life.
I hope this helps.