How can I develop a higher self esteem so that my constant bad mood doesn’t translate to other people?

Your mood is not dependent on your level of self-esteem. While low self-esteem is a problem that should be worked on… it is a problem that needs worked on separately from social skills, such as conveying friendliness.

it’s not a bad mood. My guess is that you are insecure about your appearance and feel the need to take it out on the world. If there’s something about yourself that you don’t like, change it! sitting around complaining isn’t going to help

Try to look in the mirror and practice to pose

Self image is a lot to do with self esteem.
We often see ourselves being reflected by others attitude to us.

Are people attracted to me or not?

If not why not?

Do I wear a pleasant smile , a welcoming appearance. We all know how off putting a grumpy ,un friendly or suspicious person can be.

However basing self esteem on what others do and and say is very insecure and is bound to be subject to their mood swings and yours.

So b all means do your best to be friendly and open with people. Helpful if you can. But dont let yourslf become miserable trying to please people just to gain acceptance.

Learn to love them ( I use the word advisedly!)
You dont have to throw open your personal life and feelings but at least care about others.

I find from a personal experiencof gossippers and backbiters that self image can drop off the scale leading to bitter depression.. sometimes suicidal but never waste time on all that.

I believe God loves me ( and you) as we are .Warts and all. I believe He regards me with love and esteem ,far more valuable than even a partner or parent so I no longer worry even about what I think of myself because his value is much higher than mine( or yours).

However as we seek to please Him we became like Him and therefore our own self esteem cannot help but grow day by day, even when we fail)

It’s not easy gaining self confidence by just hearing someone tell you to gain it lol.

Okay to start off with building self-confidence in yourself and to be around people see this;

We are all human and we ALL have good and bad qualities. There is no existing human that is perfect. We are all ordinary and equal. Our skin holds our flesh and bones together, we have a brain, heart, liver, lung, ears, nose, mouth. What makes us different from each other really? In reality we are all equal and the same.

Also if you want people to treat with well and with respect then you must also treat EVERYONE well and respectful.
” Treat others how you want them to treat you ”
” Whatever you do goes back to you ”
I am referring to karma.

If you treat a certain person badly, then you will get back the same treatment and it does not have to be from the same person you treated badly. So remember to treat everyone well ( that’s if you want the same treatment, which I’m sure you do). I’m not telling you to live your life at all, I’m just telling you the laws of karma, the laws of living.

***After I’ve done all of this to have more confidence in myself, there was still something missing and it was not loving myself. I couldn’t fully relate to people on how they might think of me, so what I had to do first was love myself in order to love others.
You hear this once and you’ll hear it again and its true;
” In order to love others you must first love yourself ”
So everyday when you wake up remember to love yourself to get yourself through the day.
Don’t be worried if you don’t “receive” love because that does not bring you true happiness, “giving” love brings more happiness than receiving for “ones own”. But remember in order to give love you most first love yourself because there must be a root that the love must start from, which is yourself, and then it grows and spreads onto others like a tree.
So in your case don’t worry if people don’t love you back, just remember what will truly make you happy and get you through a day is if you love yourself and love others, no need to receive as long as were giving, this is the formula of happiness.

note; I can’t live, be happy, talk to others feeling good if I don’t love myself, and accept myself. LOVE,ACCEPT,FORGIVE YOURSELF AND THEN TO OTHERS! =D

So conclusion, to not suffer and be happy;
*Expect yourself to “give” love, don’t expect to “receive”

U seem to be suffering from an inferiority complex. In the absence of details like ur age, academic, career etc. it is difficult to suggest to u. Still, as u understand ur problem, it is not dificult to overcome that. Do not do things which u do not like. Dont look into the mirror. While talking to others try to listen more than u want to talk. Take to some pastime or hobby, which u think u r good at or try to find ur aptitude and develop in that line. Self confidence and self esteem cannot be imposed from outside. U have to develop that urself. Try the above advice(?) and see the result. Change may come slower than u expect but have patience.U will become alright. Good Luck