How Can I Get Back My Motivation?
I work, 30 hours a week and enjoy my job. No problem there! My motivation disappears when I walk through the front door.
I have a partner who has not worked for the last 2.5 years. He does cook and he hoovers, sometimes which is great but most of the time he reads newspapers and magazines, all day! I come home and because he is sitting there, I sit there. I really want to get on with things like decorating, cleaning our damp mouldy bathroom tidying up the place, washing the curtains and cleaning the windows. But, I acheive nothing because I have no motivation.
I have tried making a list of things that need doing but, when written down, it is so overwhelming, I just can’t face it.
I have tried ticking off as I go but it is still too overwhelming so I give up.
I really need help with this, I don’t feel depressed just unable to cope.
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It is quite easy…make smaller lists.
First take that humongous list that overwhelms you and break it down into “Jobs for Him” and “Jobs for Me”.
Then break it into categories…”Jobs that need doing immediately”, “Jobs that can wait a week”, “Jobs that need to wait for funding”, and “Things I’d LIKE done that aren’t necessary”. Do that for both HIS list and MY list.
Then make up four new lists for each of you, with those headings, and DATE THEM.
Then post the most immediate lists on the fridge “Jobs that need doing immediately–HIM” and “Jobs that need doing immediately–HER”. That way your partner has no excuse for not doing his jobs (because they are posted out in plain sight. And you will have the motivation to get on with yours, because you will see that he is keeping up with his (I hope).
Then, once both of those lists are finished for both of you, you post the new listings. Of course, the “Jobs that can wait a week”, have now become the “Jobs that need doing immediately” because of the time that has passed, but at least they are GETTING DONE! Yes?
Get home, eat and have a good cup of coffee. Not saying you do but no smokie treats either. Then get up and start a simple project. If you only work 30 hours each week there is a lot of time left to get rolling.
There an old saying
body in motion will remain in motion.
In other words just get up and your body will do the rest.
Although you say you don’t feel depressed there’s obviously an element of depression when you think of your home life I think your partner is probably suffering from depression and it’s him that needs the help for that and to get motivated Try to get him to visit the doctor and once that is addressed your motivation will return,
Why don’t you do them with your partner together, so you both motivate each other.
Also split up your list and put the most important jobs at the top. Try only putting a few or even one job per day, and if your don’t complete it that day, move it onto the next.
Start changing your life. What does your diet consist of? Do you eat a lot of foods with high amounts of sugar in them? Consider eating more vegetables and proteins. Whole grain breads are good too. Turn off your television and go for a walk. Or better yet start running and consider participating in a 5k race or maybe even a triathlon.