January 29, 2010
How Can I Overcome My Fear Of Being Happy?
We all have our up and down days, but to me the very notion of having an “up” day seems pretty unrealistic. I cannot really explain this feeling that I have but I am afraid of being happy because that I try to even think positive, something negative always comes up and overshadows it. Since this apparently isn’t going to stop anytime soon I just deliberately think about depressing things so that I won’t be afraid or disappointed. But are there any better methods for overcoming this fear?
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it depends really.
on what you think as being happy. for example, getting new clothes can make you happy or someone coming to visit can make you happy. are you scared of that?
sometimes, yes, there are always things that come an overshadow what you try and think
just keep positive and stay positive, no matter what happens. itll change eventually and youll feel a lot better
They have drugs for that now.
OMG Dr. Atari you are insane!!
I like to think of life and karma as a scale with 3 points to put the weights.
You have good 1, bad 2 and neutral 3.
To me karma is hard to balance, because I think people get confused about it.
You have your own personal scale, if someone else is involved with your scale it doesn’t balance with just you, because the other person has to be weighed into the equation; you have to figure in the human factor.
Some people think that if they do something good or bad, something good or bad will happen to them, and most of the time this is true, because other people are aware of it.
Say you do something good or bad and get caught, the scale has to balance its self, it has to figure this other person within the scale, it is no longer a personal scale you now share it with that person.
So how does karma balance the scale?
The human factor will be the deciding vote; but if the outcome is good or bad, it will knock your personal scale off again.
This is why most people don’t like to get involved with other people, especially if it’s bad.
Let’s say you help and old lady across the street.
You feel good about it right, and she feels good about being helped.
At this moment the scale is unbalanced, the pivot point “Good 1” is too heavy.
“Bad 2” and “Neutral 3” are ready to float away, karma will not let this happen.
So now something bad has to happen to both of you, or one of you.
But let’s say something bad happens to the lady.
She gets mugged because you helped her get to the right place at the wrong time.
Karma just balanced it’s self with the lady and you because you were involved with her getting to the right place at the wrong time.
Had you not helped her, the old lady and the muggers never would have met, because the time would have been different.
But you’re still feeling good about helping that old lady; your neutral is still lite.
Karma will not let that happen, it has to balance again; you will have to feel bad again.
So at this point you are asking “Well Dr. Atari, besides me thinking you are a total nut and should be locked away for the benefit of humanity!
How can I be happy; how can I get good things to happen to me?”
It’s very easy..
You have to control Karma, it’s a bit tricky.
If you want something good to happen then make something bad happen so Karma can balance it’s self in your favor.
Do you really think people cut their fingers off on accident on construction sites?
Hell no!
They do it so something good will happen to them, the more extreme the better the outcome.