How can I proceed with personality development? I lack a good personality and want to work on it.?

One obvious way is known as token economy.

This is where you complete a task which you wanted to do but were never able to and reward yourself for doing so, until the point where you do it so often that it is internalised and improved. Take something you want to improve. Let’s say the shyness part. You could often ask peers for help with homework or whatever, reward yourself and keep doing so until more people speak to you and you do not feel as shy. Thus psychology improving your ability to be more extroverted with people.

Believe me this works. I was a shy person at school and this is what I did. Now I’m the most accepted kid in my school and am very popular.

Hey dude let me say I understand where you’re coming from. I tend to be somewhat shy (self-conscious may be a better term) in public or when I’m with people I don’t know well.

One thing is that your personality will “develop” (as you call it) as you get older. As I get older I’ve become much better in conversations, situations are less awkward, and I’m not as nervous around people I’m not super-familiar with.

Another thing to remember is that alot of it (not all but alot) is in your head. For instance, you may notice a silly mistake in how you say something and get all nervous. It’s easy to assume the other person noticed too, but many times they won’t. That’s not the best example but it illustrates my point that alot of problems that you may have (in conversations of whatever) are probably observed more by you than by the person you’re talking to. Now this isn’t ALL the time, but much more than you realize I bet.

I’m a Christian so for me it’s helpful to remember that God had me come into this world a certain way on purpose. He didn’t make any in my personality at all. Any problems in my personality (anxiety or whatever) are a result of the negative effects of sin entering the world way back in the past. Everything else though God put into my personality on purpose.

Anyways, just a few tips that I hope you at least find encouraging. Good luck man. I’m going to pray for you right now, hope you don’t mind.