How can you motivate a person when they have worked hard & lost everything?

i have a friend that has alot of things going on in his life right now including a baby a girl that’s with someone else and he’s on the run from the law and looking at jail time he says that he wants to kill himself sometimes i tell him i’m going through alot too i have 15 charges on my juvenle record with 2 felonys of breaking and entering from when i was 14-16 and now i want to join the military but i have too many felonys right now and it’s really my dream to go in i think he needs to just move on and work through it turn himself in and start his life over

yes, its called “MYOB.” until that person asks for you concerns then oblige the note! then the person will see that your help is not fostered by another reason!

I give them this poem.

Don’t Quit Poem
by anonymous

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest! if you must; but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up, though the pace seems slow;
You might succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup.
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out;
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit;
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

Put a great inference on the last line, “its when things seem the worst that you musn’t quit.”

Keep going what you lost can be restored to something greater.

I have felt this way before. I haven’t lost everything, but I felt I did about a year ago. I think my faith in God helped me the most to pick myself up and continue on. I’m even beginning to forget some of what happened to me last year as if it was just a bad memory. That is how I know I’m on the road to recovery. Now for me to help someone else, that is even harder, but just being their friend is a start.

Hi there,
I’ve seen this happen to some close to me. One person I know worked sweat & blood their whole life through University, graduated and then worked their way up the ranks of a big company for 30 years. Then she got handed a pink slip. It was ALL over for her. She had friends there too, she was a top boss when this company bottomed out so they were in the same boat. Here’s what she ended up doing: Turning to substance abuse. For 10 years nobody could stop her. So she lost more ,her house, her husband and her kids. Her new crowd of “friends” were all substance abusers themselves. My personal advice to you is just try to be there for her as a real friend, perhaps you could gently talk to her on the side & let her know your genuinely concerned.If the situation is concerning try to get her to seek help, a therapist or psychologist. Maybe this person is lonely and afraid to make friends because their self esteem is very hurt. You could be a good friend, there aren’t many around it it could just do the world of good for him/her. As for the girl I began talking about it took 11 -eleven- years for her to quit what she was doing to herself. She’s so lucky to be alive. Please consider this.

It’s got to be in the will of the victim to rise above the obstacles placed in front of them. And it’s not easy.
They’ve got to set new goals or they’ll destroy themselves.
It’s a form of depression.

Medications can help ease the tension and stress but they
DO NOT cure the problem.
That’s up to the will and desire of the person affected.

There is alot to live for and as much to die for….It’s up to them to beat the odds.
Pray for those afflicted!!!!!!!!!!!!

When God closes a door, he opens a window.

When I was in pain escaping that pain was a motivator! If a person is drawing breath; then they haven’t lost everything!!! They have the most important thing-LIFE!
Sex is a great motivator! A good meal is a great motivator! Sex and food are my two fun/best motivators:)
My son has kept me going when nothing else would have, and I have continued on my path many times for him more than for myself!My son is my most consistent and wonderful motivator:) When I drank heavily my motivation was booze:( When I was studying art my motivation was to show the world my interpretation of reality.
Preparation, hard work and learning from failure:)

Individuals motivate themselves.
The error is in thinking that this is not the case.