How Do I Keep Visitors Happy While Bonding The First Hour After Giving Birth?

Your family should be wondering how to keep YOU happy, not vice-versa. Poor girl; I wish it was as easy as: “Don’t worry about them, worry about yourself.” I’m a people-pleaser too, especially when it comes to family, and the word NO isn’t in my vocabulary nearly as often as it should be.
In Pennsylvania, it is against the law to allow anyone into the delivery room without the mother’s consent. To stall my parents and in-laws from their Kodak moment fiascos, I told the nurses to report that I was not ready for visitors and they did the dirty work for me. They reported the birth of a healthy baby, and assured them that a member of the hospital staff would be happy to come and get them from the lobby after I was stitched up and rested a bit.
I feel it’s in bad taste to bum-rush the labor and delivery area; nurses will be busy in there, as well as your ob/gyn. There isn’t enough room to accomodate a large family gathering. You could simply tell them that you want to let the doctor be able to perform without distraction, and that they’ll be welcome to visit as soon as you are moved to the maternity ward.
If all else fails, call them once you are rested and settled in and announce: “ITS A GIRL! I’m in room…”
Best of luck! I hope all goes well.

Don’t even call them until a few hours after delivery.

Well you could tell the nurse that you don’t want any visitors just yet and they will respect that for you. Tell the nurse to tell them that you can’t have visitors just yet as you are still a little out of it and need some time. The nurses will gladly tell people that you can’t have any visitors just yet, but for them to wait for an hour. Chances are that if they were waiting there since you went into labor then they have things to keep themselves occupied, otherwise don’t call anyone until after you have rested and are ready for them to come.

You can ask the doctor not to let anyone in…. You might want to consider making a birthplan to give to the doctor so they know how to handle things the way you would like. To be honest this is really not somthing you should worry about at all. Tell your doctor and your husband your wishes and your husband can handle any hurt feelings family members might have. Believe me you dont want to think about this kind of stuff.

Let everyone know ahead of time, then they’ll know that they need to entertain themselves during that time.

Why not just have everyone wait at your house where they can relax and call them when they can come over?

ey my lil ones kayden aswell, great name!
tell eope in advance what you want as art of yr birth pan its you baby and your body you d not have to worry about other people as it wiull make u stressed!!
plus like some1 else said for up 2 a hour after delivery you can be in d4livery suite and only 2 people allowed in at once.
try not too worry and good luk!

Tell the nurses-or have the nurse take a picture with a digital camera or phone to show the people in waiting.
The hospital I’m going to is very strict about visiting hours. The first hour after you deliver, you are still in the delivery suite while you recover & the baby gets weighed and they do some other quick tests there in the delivery suite. Then you get a chance to try & nurse right after birth. Maybe after an hour or 2, then they take you to the “maternity suite” where you will stay the rest of the time. Perhaps at that time you can stop by & show everyone quickly?

have the nurses put a mother baby bonding sign on your door and that visits are to be limited. That will save you from having to do this

Give the visitors a quick look and a happy goodbye and tell them you need to rest now.

You bond instantly with your baby so don’t worry. If you still want time alone, just tell the hospital staff that you need a moment and they can tell your family that as soon as they are done with you they’ll let the family in the room. Put the blame on the hospital so you don’t have to hear it. It’s actually not that bad having your family there. You’re the boss and everyone is going to listen to you. My daughter had to go under the heat lamp for a little bit to get her body temp up so I told everyone, she has to be there or they are going to take her away into the nursery and everyone listened to me. Just be firm and let them know what you want. I wanted to breastfeed and everyone knew it so they gave me my baby right away so I could start trying. I only had immediate family (like my parents, sister, mom-in-law, and sister-in-law) there and not until much later did the rest of the family and friends show up when I was ready.

they will willingly wait, i promise, do not worry about that. worry about healthy and happy.

tell your husband to take all the eager well wisher to the local bar for happy hour.

Tell the doctor to ask to keep them out- or just ask someone close like your parent to keep everyone out, they should understand
good luck

If you really want that bonding hour with your baby, keep everyone out until you have spent what you feel is enough time with the baby. Im sure everyone will respect that decision as they know its whats best for mother and baby
Congrats also!

Its really hard to keep everyone happy. On one side, your entire family has been waiting anxiously for hours, not really getting any news or updates on progress. And on the other hand, you’ve been in labor for hours, and after the first 20 minutes, you stopped caring about anyone else, haha. Go ahead, and be selfish. Ask the nurse to invite them in for 5 minutes only, and have her ask them to leave for a while so you can try nursing, or whatever excuse you want her to use. You can use that five minutes to pretty yourself up for pictures if you feel like, or just watch everyone adore the new baby. If you don’t want them in at all, then just don’t tell them until you’re ready to visit. If anyone asks, tell them you had to be cleaned up, nurse, etc. Trust me, once they see the baby, they’ll forget about having to wait.

everyone should respect your private time with your baby, let everyone know that you would not like to have any visitors until the day after the birth. if they are offended, its they’re problem not yours.
congrats,

Just ask your mother to tell the people who are there that you have requested the first hour after the birth to be alone with your husband and baby. Tell them that you want to bond and breast feed that first hour. Let them know you will receive visitors after that time. It isn’t your job to keep visitors happy. This is the day they are happy for YOU. This is about you and the baby and your husband. They should understand and respect your wishes. If they know your plans ahead of time, perhaps they will elect to wait at home until your mom calls announcing the birth and telling them what time they can visit.

It takes a village to raise a child. Everyone important in your child’s life should be a part of it. You have been bonding since the baby began to grow inside of you. Your baby already knows your voice and your smell as both are very important to a babies survival. The doctors and nurses will not just allow people to trapse in just after you have given birth. You will be cradling your baby as they remove the afterbirth, then wash you up and perhaps even stitches. Not to be graphic, but it will be some time before you even leave the birthing room before others may come and see you. They also need to weigh and measure the baby and run tests as well.

tell them before you even go into labor. you dont even have to say it directly just casually bring it up in conversation.

First, congratulations! Second, ask the nurses what to do. They have great ways to do this. I remember when I gave birth, they asked me at anytime if I wanted to deny a visitor or use them to ask the visitors to leave. They are very respectful to your wishes as well as find respectful ways to tell your family you need your space. That entire day is going to be very crazy and hetic, so I recommend spending a few hours even a day of recuperating before you have visitors. Remember it for your health and the health of your baby.

People understand. Make sure you let people know that you want privacy after you give birth. The best way is to not call anyone until you are ready to accpet visitors or have you partner make the calls and tell riends an appropriate visiting time. Just say you are tired, people really do understand! Good luck to you

Tell your visitors to bring something with them and that once the baby is born, you and hubby will be spending about an hour recuperating and enjoying baby before they will be admitted. Let your nurses know. That’s it. Easy. Unless you have overbearing in-laws–then your nurses are very much your helpers.

We now realise how important the first hour or so after a babys birth is as far as establishing bonding and breast feeding. The benefits are great for the baby and the parents ! A well known French Obstetrician has suggested that the atmosphere to birth a baby should be like the atmosphere to make a baby??!! Soft lighting, warmth, security and intimacy. You could prehaps tell your family / visitors how important this time is for you and ask them to stay away for a wee while just so that you can introduce yourselves and allow the baby to have the first feed uninterupted. Parents need to be firm on this one and united as it is so precious!

Forget about “bonding”, networking, and playing politics for at least a few hours after you’ve given birth. Your baby should come first, you will have plenty of time later to go back and social engineer with the visitors who come to see you and your new baby. I think most visitiors will understand that you are preoccupied with your newborn, and will not expect you to bond with them right away, as your attention will have to be focused on the baby.