How do I meet this goal of beating my anxiety?

Realize your normal, give yourself a break, and give yourself permission to not be perfect- nobody is. Try yoga, deep breathing, see a doctor for an anti-anxiety if you need to. You say you are setting goals that you MUST meet- what will happen if you don’t meet them, will your head explode? It’s good to set goals, but you need to realax a little also. Some people aren’t as disciplined at setting goals as you are. It sounds like you aren’t so great at relaxing.

Take a pill

I worked a program that changed my life. Here are some things you can do. That will get you moving id the right direction. It will help. It was calm as calm could be in just a couple of weeks. By the way there are 15 weeks to the program. If you like it go to http://www.stresscenter.com you can order the whole program there.

Anxiety & Depression Program

My History Does not have to be My Future!
I can not control the wind, but I can control the direction of my sails!

Week 1
I am creative, capable &intelligent
*I can not change the past
*I can change my present
*This condition is temporary
*Knowledge is power
*It is just anxiety
Awareness
1. Notice personality traits that encourage anxiety
2.I can change the way I think
3.Make behavior changes
4.Slow down in all ways
5.Exercise & reduce caffeine
6.Recovery is gradual
7.Take action on inner dialogue

Week 2
I am strong, courageous, & capable, My new skills are working!
* It is O.K. to be anxious, I AM O.K.
*Body symptoms are uncomfortable
*I have tools to control Panic
*I can handle sad, anxious, or nervous feelings
*I am my own safe place
*It’s O.K. to relax now
*It always passes
FEAR -False Evidence Appearing Real
6-steps to deal with waves of sadness, anger, worry etc…
!. Accept -float do not fight
2.Permission- I know what this is
3.Breath-1-2 in nose 1-2-3-4 out mouth
(slows down breathing)
4.Inner dialogue- positive, comforting
5.Distract-action mental & physical-15 minutes
6.Let time pass- discomfort always passes

Week 3
As a man thinketh so he is proverbs 23:7
I choose the thoughts I entertain
I know positive thoughts-produce positive feelings
I will look for good
Negative thinking is a bad habit I can break
I am worthy of inner peace
I am alive & participating in my day
I am proud of my accomplishments
6-steps to deal with negative thoughts
1. Recognize-negative thought- put up stop sign
2.Question-is it true, reasonable, rational, realistic?
3.Re-structure-state the positive
4.Transport-negative state for positive one
5.Problem solve-Improve situation
6.Write- change negative thought to positive
Positive thought can not co-exist with negative thoughts!
Change mind-Change Mood

Week 4
“ I feel much better now that I give up control of the universe”
8 -steps to deal with Unrealistic expectations
1.Would I ask this of anyone else?
2.Is this really my responsibility?
3.Am I over-reactive
4.How can I be more effective & less affected?
5.Am I trying to be perfect?
6.Who am I trying to impress?
7.Is this my goal?
8. Do I really have to control this?
Expect less stress, sadness& anxiety!

you know what i just read an article online that really helped me understand anxiety a lot better

i bet the article would help you as you progress towards your goal of beating anxiety