How do I obtain a better self esteem?

theres not much help you can obtain from others…really you are going to have to mentally work through this.you have to overcome what you believe other people think of you…………i guarantee no1 is setting there saying
“look how awful she is.” …..also if you want to feel better about yoursewlf you could work out and get into a sport

Guys are great for ruining self esteem. And it is true, it’s not something you can just change over night or something that someone can change for you. My best friend used to have ZERO self esteem. She would always be the girl in the corner at parties, the one wearing hoodies instead of fitted clothing, the one who would be to shy to introduce herself to any guy because she thought she would have no chance. She though she was fat, ugly, boring, and had no talent.

Today she looks the exact smaeand has pretty much the same hobbies… but withen a year her confidence went through the roof. All she did was started hanging out with more people, keeping her old friends but making new ones too. Once she realised how much people starting liking her and wanted to eb around her when she made herslef open to it, it really helped! In the beginning she had to force herself to go out and do things, talk to people, and dressed to be noticed. But now that she has changed the guys wont stop coming, because her self confidence shines!

It takes time but the more you do the better you’ll find yourself!

*Look at it this way, if you looked any different (as in face wise, curvy, hair) you’d look really strange, and you wouldn’t look like you!
*Write a list of about 20 things you like about yourself!
*If a guy wouldn’t like you for who you are as a person, he’s not for you. A good boyfriend would think you were beautiful no matter what you wear or apply!
*Spend some time with your really good friends, just a whole day with them to let yourself know that there are people who actually really like you!
*Write in a diary! I never thought this would work, but once I started, I found it really comforting and fun! It actually does work! Trust me!
*Boost other people’s self-esteem by giving compliments to them! Just minor things like, “Your hair is gorgeous! What shampoo do you use?” or “You have the coolest taste in clothes! I’m jealous!” This helps a lot!
*God will always be there for you. Even if you turn from him. Please give it a chance and look to God! I swear I’d be in counseling if I wasn’t a Christian.
-This is all so corny, but it does work!!

Everybody’s self-esteem goes rock bottom some days in their life. The girls you were admiring could have their self esteem down and admiring you for your talents!

God Bless You!

” The best teachings is through experiences ” Well from what I’ve experienced, gained knowledge from and understood, please read my answer;

First off the root of being shy, nervous, anxiety is fear.
When the mind is afraid then the body will get the message, so then your body will turn tensed and rigid.

Okay to start off with building self-confidence in yourself and to be around people see this;

We are all human and we ALL have good and bad qualities. There is no existing human that is perfect. We are all ordinary and equal. Our skin holds our flesh and bones together, we have a brain, heart, liver, lung, ears, nose, mouth. What makes us different from each other really? In reality we are all equal and the same.

Now when your in a fearful situation such as being around people, well I want you to imagine every negative or positive outcome that may happen to you when your in a fearful situation and just “let it happen” instead of “preventing” it. When you try to prevent these outcomes made up in your mind, you create a barrier of fear, which makes your body turn tensed and rigid. Think about this though has fear ever benefited you in your whole life? Or has it instead made your situation worse by making your body turn tensed and rigid?
You are human, you are certainly going to die in this lifetime and so is everyone else. So “try” to “enjoy” every moment you can living, instead of living in “fear”. You can possibly die next week, next month or maybe in the next 2 years.

Now you say you want to make friends right?
Well go and just talk to people! How?
“You won’t know until you try”
“Don’t doubt, attempt, make mistakes, learn, move forward, live”

You won’t know if a person you want to be friends with will be able to relate with you and would hang out with you until you yourself start talking to them in a friendly manner. Holding a decision is like making a delay, does it ever help? Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, humans make mistakes ALL the time, but what is important is that we “recognize” our mistake, “learn” from our mistake, and try to “avoid” doing it in the future.

Also if you want people to treat with well and with respect then you must also treat EVERYONE well and respectful.
” Treat others how you want them to treat you ”
” Whatever you do goes back to you ”
I am referring to karma.

If you treat a certain person badly, then you will get back the same treatment and it does not have to be from the same person you treated badly. So remember to treat everyone well ( that’s if you want the same treatment, which I’m sure you do). I’m not telling you to live your life at all, I’m just telling you the laws of karma, the laws of living.

**Okay this is for thinking “negative” which is the worst thing you can possibly do. Look I want you to realize that thinking negative has not ever helped you or anybody in your whole life. In reality thinking negative does not help at all. In the other hand thinking positive will help you to look good in situations, feel good, have a good positive attitude, where people want to be around you for.

Look I want you to remember this quote;

“There are not negative things, just negative thinkers and There are not positive things, just positive thinkers.” ( its a negative act when it is harmful such as killing, stealing, bad use of words, ect. you get the idea lol )

I’ll explain what the quote means; It means pretend I thought that a certain music band is good making music, which is a positive thought and then on the other hand there’s another person who thinks negatively of them and who thinks that they aren’t good. What I’m trying to say in reality there is no positive or negative things its all what ourselves judge things as. You can look at everything positive, and just set your mind to positive. Don’t let other peoples negative opinions and thoughts hold you back from looking at the positive things because people who are positive are people who will want to be your friend because look in reality who the heck wants to be friends with someone who is always negative? To be honest no I wouldn’t and I’m pretty sure you don’t either. While on the other hand having a buddy who stays positive and helps out is a friend that everyone wants to have.