How Do I Overcome Self Deprecciation And Extremely Low Self Esteem?

to overcome depression I took small steps of just doing something productive even if it was only a simple cleaning out my sink in the bath,then find things to do like straighting out the clothes in the closet,polish your shoes,rearrange the dishes in the cabinets,pick up something to read.Anything you can do to reward yourself & say I did that today & will do something else.These little steps may seem trivial but they are not they will help you to Take bigger steps.The human is a very complex animal from one Extreme to the other of good -melancholy – to wicked with thoughts that would shame satan himself.Personally I think you are a wonderful person to ask such a question.you are most likely a very loving person Now lets get going & lets do something productive such as making up your bed & hanging up all your clothes & you’ll feel a lot better.Good luck little one & I really mean it !!!!! Read the scriptures the book of Ecclesiastes then read Proverbs they will help you to understand yourself better.

i went through the same in my teens…i did the following to overcome:
1)start a daily routine of self improvement-do positive self esteem and confidence affirmations 1st thing in the morning and last thing before bed.get them from the internet..write these affirmations and say them out loud looking at yourself the mirror.
2)get rid of negative friends and influences at once.
3)avoid tv and newspaper news as much as possible unless it is really important.if u notice,most of it is negative garbage which actually goes into your subconscious.
4)have hobbies.
5)hang around with people who are positive and encourage you.

Unfortunately, if the source of your self-esteem issue is rooted in your appearance, the only way to overcome this is by compensating with personality or intelligence. Unfortunately, this strategy is not always as successful for females as it is with males. Become good at things that guys tend to be good at also (playing video games, sports, etc.) and use that as a potential step toward more positive interactions with the opposite sex.

Practice a relaxation method, daily, and when needed, such as: (free) http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-… or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody… or Yoga Nidra, (a series of easy mental exercises only; no flexibility required) at http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/l.h… Tai Chi, Qi Gong or yoga suits others better. Give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. It is free via the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com “EFT” & “EFT therapists” Professional is best. – There is a version for use in public places, (if you want to, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: “Even though I sometimes suffer from low self esteem, I deeply and completely accept myself.” I have recently encountered the opinion that, just as it is important to build a house on a solid foundation, so it is with self esteem. Learn to forgive yourself for your past mistakes, and failures, or inadequacies. Accept that you, too are just a human being, with the frailties, insecurities, and tendency to err, occasionally, that the rest of us have. That is the beginning of self love, self acceptance, and self esteem. Regularly monitor your internal monologue (self talk): write down the negative ones: “I’m really ugly” and then the converse: “I’m fairly good looking”, and next time you become aware that you are thinking the former, visualise, as vividly as possible, a big “STOP!!!” sign, and/or a stern faced person wagging a finger at you, and deliberately repeat 5 times, either aloud, in a big voice, if alone, or subvocally (to yourself, in your mind), the converse affirmation.
Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don’t regard it as being strictly necessary. Volunteer, even from home, at first, to provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: “I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I… (insert activity here)..” Google: “volunteer from home” Edit one page of an Ebook daily, at: http://www.gutenberg.org/wiki/Main_Page Did you know that you can help us produce ebooks by proof-reading just one page a day? Go to: Distributed Proofreaders see: http://www.gutenberg.org/wiki/Category:V… Write letters in support of prisoners of conscience, for Amnesty International. Many innocent people, whose only reason for incarceration was that they were a thorn in the side of a repressive government, have had their release secured as a result of a flood of letters, from all over the world. Also see http://www.supportpath.com/ and http://www.neoteen.org ELSEWHERE: Help for 2 hours per fortnight, at Meals on Wheels. Other suggestions are: As a literacy volunteer, animal shelter, Red cross/crescent, soup kitchen, Greenpeace, nursing home/hospital, Habitat for Humanity, United Way, or as a Big Sister, or Big Brother. Make a list of all your good points, strengths, and achievements. Put it somewhere so you can easily refer to it, from time to time; perhaps on the refrigerator door, or print it; (large typeface, or capitalise) have it framed, and place in your bedroom, or in a position of prominence, such as on the television, or lounge room wall.

Live for yourself! You are #1! you need to first stop thinking about what others see you as but how you see yourself. Look into the mirror every morning and list 10 good things about yourself have a conversation with you. Being a teenager is tough but just know 10 years from now you will be a totally different person and look back and realize life is a learning process, everything you do good or bad its all just a lesson for later in life. Dont hang up on the bad but focus on the good.

Any sort of depression can be tide over by faith in GOD and sincere prayer.
Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation

well sadness and low self esteem both come from something inside us in your case it seems that you think there is nothing differnt about you and you deem youself lower than others so what you need to do is to find something in or about you that you like like in a example i have great hair i like it alot but some days it will drive me mad and then it will look bad but i was always liked freckels on the face like not alot but like just a few right by the eyes so then i found that i have a very tiny tiny mole under my eye and so anytime i feel bad about hair not behaving i just think of something that appeals to me about myself

Keep two journals. One for writing down all your feelings, this is really good for clearing out your anxieties and getting all your war onto paper, you can delete it straight after if you need to, it’s just good to really see your stressful thinking. And the other can be your gratitude journal – write down all the things you are grateful for that happened today.
Try doing Byron Katie’s “The Work”
Here is dove’s beauty campaign ad – it is girls talking about how much they hate their bodies and it can make you think about how many teenagers suffer from self-hatred. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWzbIVwGd…
You could do affirmations, like Louise Hay’s, you repeat them 3 times a day for 21 days and it can really help!
Love and hugs.
xxx