How Do I Reinforce And Stay On Top Of My Anger After I Took An Anger Management Course?

taking the course was a good first step. it sounds like you might be ready for counseling to help guide you through more situations as they arise.

Chant the maha Mantra -it is how to attain our highest self beyond anger. Anger is really unfulfilled desires manifest. When one has some desire and they don’t get it then anger arises. When we learn real intelligence and how to control the mind we can control our anger and not react. Act don’t react. for all info go to harekrishnatemple.com Read Bhagavad Gita as it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada- tells how.

Sometimes this type of behavior (seeming to improve but losing it suddenly and dramatically) occurs when people are simply supressing their anger, rather than dealing with it. I haven’t seen your online course, and I’m no psychologist, so take my words with the appropriate grain of salt. But in my own life, I’ve always found that if you want to discover why someone is angry, find out what they fear.
What is it you are afraid of? This is often not an easy question to answer. Are you afraid of losing your girlfriend the way you lost your family? If so, you have to face the pain and the fear head-on. And you have to learn to recognize the source of your anger, which may be different in different situations.
One final thought…managing anger is a day to day process. It’s not some kind of “enlightenment”, that once you “get it” you’ll never get angry again. It’s a process, and you’ll have some good days and some bad days.

You need to learn your triggers. I also have a horrible temper….once I reach a certain point it’s like the real me steps back and another person entirely is in control saying and doing horrible things. I learned to recognize when I am getting too close to my breaking point (physical and emotional symptoms) and that’s when you have to walk away and be by yourself for a while. Take a run, take a drive, go punch a punching bag….something until you can calm down and be rational again.
That being said, I believe you could do with some therapy from a counselor or a psychologist to help you deal with your issues….sounds like you could also use some couples counseling.

Stop smoking dope.

she knows you better than you know yourself so listen to her for a change. give her a chance to help you on this one. she could be right and what are you going to do about it?

It may be an issue for you that needs to be resolved. It sounds like you have displaced your anger from your family “leaving you” towards your girlfriend. She is like family to you and so you are visualizing the pain you felt from them to her. You might be scared, not angry. A lot of time people will lash out not due to true anger but because they are afraid of not having complete control in a situation. I am not a professional psychologist (yet) but I do think you need to go to a real therapist if you can afford it. It might even be covered by your insurance. If you are a student, your school will typically have some assistance for counseling. If none of these options are available to you, go to the next best thing, your girlfriend. If it is anger towards a loved one that is hurting you, it might be good to work it out with her. Talk through your pain and bring out what bothers you. You might find that some of the things that you are hurting about are making you lash out at her. Also, let her know that you want her to help you be accountable for your anger. She can be a real partner and asset for you. Find out what triggers your anger and have her work with you to find how she can dissapate the anger. By working together, you will be closer and you both will have a more peaceful relationship. Good luck with everything-Annika

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Let me ask you, white boy, who has the
issues? Why not let the ones you
mention in your question have the dubious
honor of personality defects?
These people you mentioned,
the GF, the relatives, and so forth and
so on, ad infinitum, are they all
legally, morally, and clinically
free of having any issues? I think you
are not caught up on all the best talk
shows.
Don’t you think it gets old? But Alchohol,
Tobacco, or Firearms don’t solve the
getting old problem. I wish I knew what did.
You can always use fogging or some other
tactic the smart people use. The Reporters
don’t just report you for verbal abuse, they
report you for having contrary ideas.
I just do my best to get above all of that.
It takes all my imagination to believe you
live in America. Too bad that you cannot
be the happy expatriate. But then again,
want 15 minutes on the john to yourself,
somebody will blow the whistle on you.
I better go and make sure I “take my meds
now”. Cheer up, it just gets better, my friend.
You don’t need to take those courses. Some
inspired chap needs to create a curriculum
for your gf and your relatives. Someone who
isn’t going to burn down Waco, Texas.
(short answers my axe)
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I..,..

relive the experience in your mind, allow yourself to grieve! pent up emotions are bad news, amazing how sadness can come out as rage, seriously, look into inner child work. As lame as it sounds, its very helpful.