How Do Such Attractive Girls End Up With Such Low Self-esteem?

Perhaps because certain people don’t acknowledge that they have redeeming qualities beyond their physical attractiveness.
EDIT: Yes, it could. There are very attractive people around there who want to be seen as something more than very attractive.

Self-esteem is an internal condition that has little to do with how the individual is perceived by others.
One who is praised for one’s physical attractiveness, may feel one has little else to feel good about, and constantly dread that without beauty, one is valueless.
The key in your question is “girls”. Most young people have low self-esteem. Self-esteem is developed as the individual matures and achieves accomplishments in life.

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Why would you assume that physical attractiveness is the SOLE determinant of self-esteem?
Why wouldn’t attractive girls have low self-esteem?
If their parents were hyper-critical, or emotionally distant, for instance, that would lead to low self-esteem.
Looks really have nothing to do with it.
Some attractive girls are valued ONLY for their looks, leading to low self-esteem, as no one with any brain thinks looks are important, as far as one’s quality as a human being.

It’s pretty simple. Even if you’re attractive, there are still things that are less than perfect. I don’t mean to sound cliche, but only photo shop perfection is considered ‘good enough’ if you believe the media. Women notice both their own imperfections, and those of others. They hear other women and men making fun of women who have imperfections, and it makes them paranoid. Attractive women end up with self esteem issues because they know what they gain from being attractive. Remember when Tyra Banks (the African American Victoria’s Secret model) gained some weight? Do you remember what people started saying about her? Nobody wants to go from attractive to somewhat less attractive, because people are crass and will judge you for it. (Please note that I personally think that Tyra Banks was attractive after she gained weight. It’s just an example.)
In a few cases, it could also be for the reason Rio mentioned: they want to be seen for something other than their beauty. I would argue, however, that in most cases even the most beautiful women don’t quite meet the ideal, and they’re always afraid of falling in to the average-unattractive category.
***Oh, and if you want another example: Hollywood celebrities are expected to look like they weren’t pregnant a month after having a baby. If they don’t, they’re called all sorts of names and have trouble signing on for movies. I’m all for getting back in shape, but that’s extreme. Once again, attractive women are held under the microscope just like everyone else, perhaps more so.

well i have noticed that my most beautiful of friends have whored around tremendously & i cannot understand it. how are you so pretty & want to sleep with the world? i would think the most beautiful ones would place more value on themselves…
To be more direct in answering your question, sometimes as a young girl, she suffers emotional abuse by someone who is jealous of her beauty or jealous of her in some other way. even if you’re beautiful, if you grow up in a home where the woman there gives you the harshest criticisms about your image, by the time you’re grown, that is the self image you have (self experience). So when someone is telling you otherwise, or giving you a compliment, is hard to believe…and you sometimes think they’re even lying to you b/c you were only accustomed to hearing negative things growing up….
Oh, and Mike T, i assume you’re either a misogynist or gay :’ ”i dont feel sorry for these broads’ ”.that sounds harsh. you must have been crushed by someone(s) really attractive. in anycase, dont judge. you dont personally know what some women have suffered.

For most women, while enduring the years of puberty, they’re told that they don’t look like the pretty girls, or they where unable to fit-in with the more popular kids at school. So once they become adults it’s been ingrained in their thought process that they’re not ‘pretty’ or as hot as the rest of the girls they knew from childhood. This mentality stays with them even once they’ve become adults. They assume that no matter how good they look, they’ll never be the pretty girl in the room. So for some women, they crave that constant reassurance that they’re beautiful, attractive and that men really do ‘want them’ so to speak. This is another reason why some women only feel beautiful or good about themselves if they have a large number of men trying to court them. These women associate inner (or true) beauty and self-confidence/esteem with the attention they get from men (and in some cases other women).
Let’s not forget about society’s constant struggle with physical perfection. Most women look at the images that we see on billboards and in magazines and some of us assume that we’re supposed to have perfect skin, be a size 00-6, with long flowing hair and mysterious eyes (perfect makeup and teeth to match). We’ve become so obsessed with the perfection we see on runways and on the red carpet that we fail to understand that a part of being human is not being perfect. There are women who really do not know, or understand the concept of computer enhancements on a person picture; and some women kill themselves to look like the women they see in these pics. They fail to realize that a lot of those pic’s, movies and advertisements they review and wish they looked like where digitally enhanced and altered photos of models and their favorite celebrities. Why you think tabloids like “The Globe” and “The National Enquire” spend thousands of dollars to get pics of stars on the beach with family and out of make up? This way they expose these ‘gods and goddess’ for who they truly are (with out the glitz and glam) and give the audience a sneak peek of what it is that we place so much value upon (good looks and a grate body). They have just as many flaws as the rest of us.

I’ve noticed, sometimes I told a beautiful woman she’s beautiful, and they’re surprised, “you think so, really?”
In some cases, it could be due to harsh treatment from jealous peers,
or guys are intimidated by her beauty and don’t even try to say something nice or ask her out, or beautiful ones often get too many sleezy pickup lines from dudes instead of friendship developing with genuine warm caring friends.
In some other cases, it could be an illusion, false-humility, and there’s a lot of arrogance behind that mask of apparently low self esteem.

Well your self esteem is not solely predicated on one’s attractiveness or lack thereof. I know I had some troubles in my early teens because certain immature boys who only thought in monolithic terms deemed me as the ‘good looking one’ and my best friend as the girl ‘with personality’. That really upset me and made me very down on myself for awhile. They never really took the chance to get to know me but I was always more discrete and subtle then she was and put her before myself. So she was often viewed as more vocal and extroverted then I was. Anyway it was a stupid thing to say as anyone has a great personality when they are with those they naturally click with so it is not a matter of having a “good personality” or “bad personality”. I never understood such terminology. We are all just people who try to find our kindred souls.. Anywho, obviously I still would obsess about that just a little. And it made me rather shy around that group of people that they could so rapidly and unthinkingly make a judgement like that about me..So many factors affect ones self esteem.

Possibly bad child hood, abusive relationship they are some many different reasons. And I’m sure there are plenty of attractive women that don’t have this problem. I remember once watching a special on Oprah of a girl I think she was 17 ,very Beautiful. And she thought she was disgusting she hated looking in the mirror and all it was crazy.

Because people can’t get past their looks. People think all there success in life is based on looks and they have no talent, intelligence or ability past that.
They also have a harder time making REAL friends. All male friends just want action or something to “show off” and female friends get jealous.
SO I would assume a lot of them are very lonely and feel there personalities are “overlooked” by everyone.
STILL, I don’t feel sorry for these broads either because they bring it on themselves.

Yeah, it’s true, and there are a lot of involving factors.
The media is a big one. Including stupid fashion magazines. Women werent like this 20years ago….
Their relationships with their brothers, father and men growing up.
Rape, being teased (a lot of girls were ugly duckligns as kids, but turn into swans), gossip, etc.
We need to be told we’re beautiful, I mean, with all this going on, how else are we supposed to know? So dont hesitate to compliment a lady! (Or a man, for that matter)

My opinion is that they try to hard. They try so hard to have a perfect everything, that they forget what is really important “THEMSELVES.” They shouldn’t be so caught up on their appearance that they forget about being happy. They worry to much about what others think of them.

I agree with you. I believe that some part of it is that they are beautiful and feel like everything has to be perfect, and have a hard time when everything is not perfect….like things they can’t control…in my opinion, this plays a part in it.

they dont have low self esteem. girls who are attractive crave compliments, and when they dont get them, they say stuff like “i hate my hair” so that someone will compliment her by saying ” its gorgeous!”
thats what i have found anyway…

Because when anyone depends on their appearance to get them by, it becomes like and addiction that is never satiated. They’re not rooted in their true selves, so they’re constantly seeking approval.

someone’s self-esteem does not just depend on their looks, but also how their family treats them, what their friends are like, the school environment, where they live, what their culture is like.

maybe they feel that they don’t enough acknowledgement on how attractive look.
People tend to feel more attractive when they hear it often.

low self esteem effects all kinds of people. It has nothing to do with the way a person looks, its how they were raised, and how much positive feedback they got from others that said they loved them.