How do you get back your self esteem after a bad relationship?

stay positive

Time heals all wounds.

Get some friends to take you out! try not to hang out alone…

he probally just said those terrible things because he wasn’t thinking straight after breaking up with you. his mind could of possibly been twisted and the anger stired in his mind had to go somewhere, unfortunetly it was channeled to you. don’t take it to the heart, he was probally wrong, cuz no one is worthless

take care
best of luck, Jack Spicer

True self-esteem comes from within, as the name suggests. Sit down and ask yourself honestly what your good and bad points are. (It helps to think of yourself as if you were a friend that you know very well.) Try to work on the bad points. Allow yourself to feel pleased with your good points. You’ll find your self-worth.

I am probably just typing for my own wellbeing because no female has ever taken my advice…Healing your aloneness is a book on self regeneration …it good it helps….go out and be you instead of what you think you should be

sounds like you also have low self esteem and no confidence, because you chose to get offended with his comments and you are assigning blame to him for your dissipating ambitions and popularity. The truth is if you were confident and successful in the first place, nothing he said would have mattered, you would have been confident enough to just shun the abuse, and moved on with your life…

there is quote : a man (or woman) is only as much as he wants to be. I guess this corresponds to einstein’s relativity theory, you can not be good or bad, good in the eyes of your friends, bad in your enemies. So just go on believing you’re good

spend time on yourself

go shopping, buy some new clothes, spend extra time getting ready, so you feel you look good. most of all, tell yourself how good you look every day. get a haircut, a facial, anything like that.

also spend time with your girlfriends, try and put him out of your mind, and if you ever think about what he used to say to you remind yourself of what a **** he was

when u get up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that no matter what you are beautiful, intelligent and that you deserve to be happy and to be loved. surround yourself with ppl who care about you and won’t hesitate to throw out a compliment. Go shopping! lol buy some clothes or shoes that you feel good, get a make-over whatever you need to do to feel good. But usually when i’m feeling insecure, I go on a hike and when i’m done i feel like i’ve accomplished something really big and it makes me feel really outstanding! Good luck, i hope you see how special you are

if you have friends, or just anyone that you look up to, try to spend time with them.
Also, maybe watch some home-videos of you when you were littler (that always makes me feel good about myself… i was a crazy little kid, as most people were).
Or, watch movies that show the “good” in life. idk.
these are things that i did when i was depressed.

First, let me start by saying I am so sorry that you were in an abusive relationship.No woman ever deserves to be talked down to, or made to feel lower than their partner. You will get through this.
Now, the advice I would give you is to take it one day at a time!!!! Spend time learning to get to know yourself again. find out what makes yourself happy.
Good luck in all that you do. Keep your head up!

okay well you need to do some guy bashing
its mean but that helps
say all the jerky things he did
and why your too go for him
and then after realizing your so great
hang out withh a bunch of friends
either go out
but if you still feel bad
stay home and order alot of food
and have fun

As unlikely as is is that you will read down this far, I have to comment because I think this can be very helpful.

If you do some volunteer work, you will see your worth in the eyes of those you help.

The same is true of any activity that helps others.

Best wishes.

stop thinking about him, disconnect with him,
stop caring what other comments on you. what others comments says its none of your business.

if you LOVE yourself, if you believe, trust in yourself, the esteem will rise like SUN and you can bright this world with your light like sun do.

cut his thoughts, forget what people comments and go ahead in life

Why do you still keep him in you mind? Throw him away. Anyone who discourages you must be shown the door. Just phoo-phoo him and there you are!

Start with this: Do you care about your fellow man/woman? Do you respect others? Are you considerate of others feelings? Are you responsible, mature caring adult? If the answer to all these questions are yes, then you should have a good belief you are a good person. That should reinforce the common law, that all people deserve to be treated well, period. My dad never in 52yrs called my mom fat, stupid, ugly, dumb, the S, C, or B words. Never hit, pushed, slapped, punched, or degraded her. If you did not know that is how it should be. Your next step is to share how you feel, with good family, and friends, so they can reassure you the good way how to be treated. An abuser isolates a person so they have no one to show how bad he is treating you. He treats you great like a queen, for a while. then he slowly tears you down. One way is to give 100 compliments, for a few months. then each day they give one less compliment, and adds a put down. Before long you get more put downs, then compliments. Until he breaks you. Know he planned it. You deserve better, and will get it.

Next step would be to talk to a crisis center counselor to help you stay strong as you build up your confidence. WHile there maybe help, others get away from what you got away from. And my prayers are with you.