How Do You Maintain A Positive Attitude With Such A Negative Parent?

act like u care but don’t….and please please please do not be like them!!!

Keep on loving them but surround yourself with positive people when not at home. Some times you may have to let the negative remarks go in one ear and out the other. Keep in mind that some of the things they say may be true. That part you will have to sort out especially if you are young. It may help for you to say “Why do believe that and can you explain your reasoning. Good luck

Try mixing with positive looking and wise friends. It will balance your outlook.

dont just let them do whatever they are doing to you. fight back

Good question. Wondered that myself. Sorry I can’t help you.

My mom is a total downer, everything you say she will instantly respond of why it stupid/waste of time, money/ugly on and on, you have to turn the other cheek, maintain your own personality, get involved with positve people through church, school, whatever and move out as soon as your able. Good Luck

because you live for the future, the better. the past is gone, its there just to learn from

I grew up with a parent that hated me. It was not my fault but the parent’s fault they even went to therapy for it. You need to realize it is not your fault. Hopefully the other parent is there and supportive. It is not something you can control. There are many people in your life that are not negative and like and love you. You need to dwell on the good things and the good people. With age the parent will mellow out and you can deal with the parent better. You learn to expect it. You learn to believe in yourself.

Just let them watch out 4 u don’t be in the wrong!!! Find something else to do other than be around them!!! Keep a journal to express your feelings!!

For me it would be to keep my trust in God because He is always positive. Ask your parent why they are so negative. Have a real heart to heart talk with them. It may be just out of concern for you, depending on what the situation is.

You’re the one who chooses your attitude. Spend as little time with your negative parent as possible. When she is in a positive mood, spend time with her then. You may slowly change her a bit. But if she has deeply ingrained habits, go away to college and move to a different city when you graduate. If you are very young, join a church group and spend a lot of time with them. Involve her in the church. Get the church members to work with your Mom. They love to do stuff like that. My Mom was negative and critical too. I could do nothing right. I never argued with her so she shut up quickly while my brother would argue with her and get involved in bitter arguments. I prefer peace and quiet. Once I went off to college, life became better. Actually, I had to work swing shift in a foundry first for a year to earn money for college, but I didn’t see much of Mom then.

try to learn from their attitude…dont be like them. tell them they are being depressing…maybe they dont realize it.

Keep in mind, that parenting doesn’t come with a handbook. Parent’s learn from experience. My mom told me this, when she realized some of her mistakes with me. It helped me to be patient with her. Because she does still make mistakes from time to time. But when she does, I remember what she told me

The one persons who we can rely in the whole world is parents only if we are existing means it is due to them if ur positive you will never say anybody are negative.
so please if ur are unable to exist with them try get yourself settled and you can have your own family but dont forget your parents and your duties.

Try and remember that you only have one mother and/or father there for you. Being a parent is difficult and sometimes parents do not even realize that they are being depressing. I think you should sit down with your parent and tell him/her what is bothering you and how it affects you. Sometimes people get into a frame of mind and become stagnant. Life pressures weighing them down, etc. Maybe your parent could use a big hug too.

Your attitude is the only thing in life you will ever really have control over.
You will never be able to change her but you always have the power to choose yours.

My mother can be extremely negative. Unfortunately, as much as I love her, for my own sanity I’ve had to limit contact with her. Not to the point of hardly talking to her, but more like calling her when I know I can’t talk too long. Then I have a valid reason for getting off the phone before she can get into her negative mood. Little things like that.

just think about what a pain in the asss they are.. and keep in mind that you dont want to end up like them… im in the same boat. my parents are pessimists, me im an oprimist. i try to look on the brighter side of things, cuz i know if i dont… noone will.
and who REALLY wants to live in a world filled with the dark and dreary.. not me… =)
=D best of luck.

take them to Church

continue to have fat blowouts with my so called “mom” who battles depression yet falls victim to her (disfunctional and abusive) “husband”. Both are as guilty as hell yet she is the lady who brought me into the world. He tries to portray to be my “dad”. Not even close- I am 28 years young. Is this “NORMAL”? How can I get my “mpm” to return my property to me?

i understand you completely my mum is shocking!!! i just drummed it into my head that it was HER with the problem not ME….it’s hard to do, you need to move out, if you are too young then remember that you make your own choices about who you are and how you live. You have to stop listening to the parent and listen to yourself. they can never take away your individualism no matter what they say or do

good question. I am an adult and I am still working on maintaining a positive attitude. It is important you remember that you are your own person. YOu can make the choice to be like her, or be a positive person. Thus the way to maintain, is to be how you are and avoid discussions that are negative.
Read up on Passive-Agressive behavior.
Hang in there and be strong.
Grow up good and get out on your own.