How do you make yourself happy?

i like slaying things

spend lots of money………….on myself

football

booze, shrooms and hookers

Make sure you spend a lot of time with other people. I know if I don’t hang out with any friends for a long time I feel kind of depressed.

Also try to avoid thing like TV, Video Games, Etc. You can make much better use of your time, and once you start using your time wisely you’ll start accomplishing more, once you start accomplishing more you won’t feel as depressed

Hope this helps
-Nathan

I do the things that I enjoy. I go fishing, play basketball or just go for a walk. When I am feeling down I like to look at the people that are around me and be glad that they are there. It makes me feel good to know that there are people that enjoy being around me and for that I am grateful and brings me joy.

People spend a great deal of their life SEARCHING for joy instead of learning to FIND joy in the little experiences of happiness in the everyday of our lives.

What you are going through is common to most people at some point or another in their life. The prescription that worked the best for me personally was to set aside a set time each day with pen and paper to have a session of “Gratitude”.

I’d list everything that I consider a blessing in my life: family, friends, health, food on the table, a place to live, etc.

Then I’d list things that made me happy: my husbands smile, my children, my dogs, ect.

Following that, I would think of every little unexpected happiness: the guy that smiled at me when I got my newspaper, the lady who waited on me even though it was her breaktime, the butterflies that came so close I could see the detail of their wings, etc.

And each day, the time I set aside for expressing in writing the things that are good and happy in my life, even if I wrote some of the same things, became a way to really help me see the joy and wonder that is in my life.

I also LOVE chocolate, so I try to set aside a quiet time for my and my chocolate each day. Not a ton of the stuff, just a couple of nice little morsels and some time for me to watch the sunset, or the squirrels in our yard romp and play or to just sit and be alone with my thoughts.

Learning to find joy requires patient effort, because our days get way too much publicity for things that are not so great.

make it a habit in your life each day to remind yourself of the little joys and happy moments that make you feel happy, refreshed and whole. Also, prayer and meditation help too!

Good luck! Hope this helped!

I am going to talk to you like the sister I never had. No, there is no way to make yourself happy if you still have kids. After that however, you might find that you don’t need to be “happy” per se, as even you switched the word to “joy” in your details.

I looked for happiness so long. What I needed was peace and contentment and control over my life. My husband and I built where we have no neighbors NOW and I value being “FREE” more than anything. I can howl at the moon and have as many dogs as I want out here. That’s enough about me though………….

When kids grow up and move away, if you still love your husband, or even learn to appreciate him in a different way, you might start making decisions based on your own needs and wander right into your place in the sun and know you have Earned The Right to Enjoy Your Life!! MAKE it what you WANT it. Empty next syndrome is the beginning of freedom after you stop crying. I will remember you and be wishing you well. You are going to make it, I can tell. You are a seeker and we seekers do what is most important: We SURVIVE!! @8-)

You can listen to music, do something with your pet, help someone else, sit somewhere and envision an ideal situation that really would please you, fall in love, think of things you love, think of things you’re grateful for, being amazingly happy to see someone, really good food does it sometimes, Getting a surprise, and dressing nice. and EFT! (Emotional freedom Technique) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQp0kA5a5OI
Just focus on the points, I never say any of the phrases, I love tapping the acupressure points feels wonderful. you’ll be so relaxed when you use this. It’s amazing, it feels good and makes me happy to be so relaxed. Try it!

I don’t appreciate my life much until I’m spending time. Usually it refreshes me and I’m happy to get back into the stress of things that I love.

You have to find what truly brings you joy. It’s good that you recognize all the things that are great about your life, but you are still longing for something more. Try to figure out what it is that’s missing. Is it a friend or a relationship?Maybe you need a career change. Or maybe you need a hobby that you enjoy doing, or maybe you just simply need some alone time to relax. Something is missing, and you need to fill that hole. I know when I feel the longing for something, but can’t quite put my finger on what it is, I just have to quiet my mind and listen to myself. I listen to what I’m feeling drawn to at the moment. Then I go where my gut instinct is leading me. Sometimes I just need to go on a walk. Sometimes I need to read or draw, sometimes I need to take a nap, or go bike riding. Sometimes I need to spend time with my kids, or my husband. And sometimes I just need to be alone. But whatever it is you feel drawn to do at that moment, do it. Over time from doing this often enough, you will begin to find your true self and what makes you happy. Sometimes I have the sudden urge to do something, but I’m not able to at the moment because of the kids. But I don’t let that get me down. I still find a way to do it, even if it means waiting for my husband to get off work so I can do it. But basicly, listen to yourself, and those gut feelings you get, and go with them. It’s the only way to find what is missing from your life, and discover the things that truly make you happy. And overtime, the more you figure out what brings you joy, the more joyful experiences you will begin to draw to yourself, because you are letting off the positive vibes of a truly happy person.

And I have to add that I don’t agree with the person who said there is no way to find happiness if you have kids. Sometimes I’m down, and all it takes is an innocent moment with my kids, and my spirits are instantly lifted. They have the ability to bring you so much joy, if you focus on the positive and not the negative. You can still have kids and have a life. I’ve got 5, and after spending time with them, I still get the time to enjoy my own activities. It’s about FINDING the time. If you really want something, you will find the time for it somewhere.