How is the best way to deal with an anger management problem?

Maybe you should try to get away from your family a little bit sometimes. Not too much, just when you feel you’re going to explode, and need some alone time to cool off.

Find spirituality in something – anything you pick….

You’ll learn to use your brain not your emotions……but always remember its easier to do what’s wrong (not care, lazy, anger) than it is to do what’s right (understanding, kindness, patience)!

Negative thoughts bring Negative Energy – Positive thoughts bring Positive Energy

hey when you find out, let me know…i have anger management as well..except i get extremely violent..i’ve punched the cement incessantly out of anger..scream into a pillow, throw picture frames and stuff..one time i even tried to stab myself until my mum stopped me, i accidentally stabbed her instead..i’ve been in therapy but i find it makes me even more angry.i’ve been checked out at psychological centers in the hospitals..its crazy.so you should get it checked out before you too, get violent, because it’s quite possible..and i’m only 19, it’s crazy.i’m the happy go lucky girl, atheltic, lots of friends, but when i’m angry, i go over the top..if i’m driving i’ll swerve the car on purpose..its dangerous..but i do need the help i cannot find..

but lately, i find talking to my dog and being outdoors is very therapeutic..when you feel angry or violent or like your about to have an outburst, leave. go to the park, or anywhere that sparks a good mood out of you..for me its the park..i bring a blanket, lay down and just stay there.i think..i listen to music..until i stop being angry..it’s helped because i haven’t had any violent outbursts yet…

I think I can see the problem straight away: you always come up with a negative reply.

Remember, it’s thoughts which create emotion. I’ve noticed that if I make a conscious decision not to think thoughts which make me angry, then I don’t get angry, or at least not AS angry.

Once you’ve cooled down, try to think back about what made you angry, and consider whether you were been rational. It’s amazing how irrational you can be while angry. For example, only recently have I noticed that I sometimes tend to place the blame on other people rather than myself, simply because I never think straight when angry; this habit of blaming others just made me more angry, then I started holding grudges (which didn’t help achieve anything) and the cycle of anger continued, and for what? I didn’t gain anything, except unhappiness. Once you start to see things more rationally, maybe you won’t get angry in the future. And always remember to consider whether it’s worth been angry, or if it’s just making you (and possibly others) unhappy with no or little gain.

Also, experiment with different outlets for anger. What seems to work for me is “burning” anger off through physical exercise (I’ve only tried this once so far but it seemed effective). Go for a run, bike ride, whatever. Hopefully when you get back the anger will have settled, but even so it’s still important to keep your mind off what made you angry in the first place, or you’ll become angry again.

I think that you should take into consideration that people are trying to make you feel better. Unlike my family, who sees me mad then gets mad at me for being mad WTF????!!!! I have anger management issues as well, but mine is very explosive and violent. I lose control of myself and go into a frenzy where I fight and get headaches, stomach churning, starts screaming at people and throwing things. Maybe the best thing for you is to just have a talk with your family about what bothers you and they may understand and try to help you out. Me on the other hand, I need Jesus. LMFAO!!!!