March 16, 2010
How to keep your self esteem up nowadays?
It is extremely difficult to have a high self esteem nowadays, since a lot of people think its “cool” to make fun of/bully others. I’ve been trying for a couple of years to bring my self esteem up, but it just doesn’t work. It has gotten a lot better, but every time something good happens that brings my confidence up, it goes all the way down again because of jerks. Any hints or the ways that helped you increase your confidence would be appreciated =] Thank you.
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Hey, I’m not familiar with your current situation but one way I bring up my self esteem is to learn another language. (Spanish mostly) I enjoy talking and communicating with people from all over the world.My self esteem and over all confidence has been greatly improved. is a great website to visit if you are interested. Just make a profile and you can communicate by text chat or voice. Not sure which you would prefer. And as for the bullies.. Is it really going to matter what they are saying or doing? Just remember that you are the bigger person. You have control. If they don’t know it bothers you they will eventually stop. Good luck and hopefully this information will help you.
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Hi,
In my experience, the following things have helped me:
1) Have a support network of some kind – people who will be your cheerleaders. If your parents are out of the question or you don’t have a few good friends to turn to, get a therapist.
2) Next try some new activities you’re interested in. Ideally, something to take you out of your current comfort zone. A sport? A martial art? Painting? Just start small. Growth occurs in baby steps, not leaps and bounds.
3) If you fall down, get back up and try again. An instructor once told me, “fall down twice, get up 3 times”. That advice has served me well.
4) Also, take a sheet of paper and write down all the ways in which your appreciate yourself. Write “I like myself because I’m…(kind, generous, etc.)” and really let that sink in. If you catch yourself thinking negatively of yourself, think about that piece of paper and what’s on it.
5) If you can, don’t let it bother you (easier said than done). But if the hurassment continues, report it. Or as a last resort, think of creative ways to take control (Can’t recall exactly, but as a little boy Stephen Spielberg once got mad at a neighbor and spread peanut butter all over his windows).
And remember, as a little kid gold medalist Michael Phelps was afraid of the water, so the first stroke he mastered was the backstroke. But with the right attitude, training, and support, we’d probably all agree he is someone who has a very high level of self-esteem. But he didn’t start out that way. It was built over time. You can do that too.
Good luck.