I Tend To Use Shock Value To Upset People, Do I Need Anger Management?

The good news: yeah we all feel this way. The other good news: there’s a way to get your way, get people to move their lazy asses, and not come off sounding rude, obnoxious, or like a psycho crank from hell. All these answers have one thing in common: passive-aggressive hostility, bordering on actively aggressive hostility, with a more than a dash of sarcasm and verbal abuse thrown in as well. (Shoving a sausage up someone’s vagina? That’s rape, and that’s sick, sad and WRONG.)
I’d be surprised if anyone actually did what you wanted them to do if you address them so rudely and disrespectfully. And there’s a possibility you could get yourself beaten up or killed if you keep going the way you are going. I suppose it all depends on whom you say this to as well. Do you speak this way to a 300-lb leather-clad motorcycle dude, or an older man who’s taller than you, or just to women and children and homeless guys down on their luck?
People since ancient times have been decrying “O tempora! O mores!” (O the times, o the behavior!) We all want what we want when we want it, and not all of us are enlightened, sympathetic, empathetic or upstanding enough to think of ourselves and others at the same time. Given that, it is up to the individual to uphold the social contract NO MATTER if other people do or not. If you know to do good and don’t do it, you are no better than the people you criticize. In fact, by being rude, mean and obnoxious, you may be much worse than these people. Everyone, after all, makes mistakes, has a bad day, forgets. YOU make mistakes. YOU have bad days. YOU forget. No one — including you — is perfect.
I recommend The Paradoxical Commandments by Kent M. Keith. The book is titled _Anyway_. Some gems include: People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered. Love them anyway. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway. If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
And by the way, “frank” here doesn’t mean honesty and telling it like it without tact or discretion or feeling for others. It means being honest with sensitivity, compassion and empathy.
Like my momma always told me, you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Peace, K

You need professional help.

you need manners

Sheesh, I have been irritated lately by people seeming to get upset by the fact that I want to put my wallet back in my purse and zip it up at check out. Their huffing and puffing. I try to be polite, but the onslaught of rudeness gets worse. I don’t know exactly what brought on the sausage incident, but it sounds like you are automatically bristling up now when you go chopping, eh I mean shopping!-road rage in the grocery store

You just need to know that these people are in control of you more than you are. It is OK to show exasperation in a situation like yours, otherwise people would never know that they are offending others. But to be rude about it is only showing them that they bettered you.

Best Answer!
You need hobbies!
I detect that you are so critical of others because you are bored or need something to stimilute you to a point of feeling alive. Not being happy with your life or social class is not a reason to think you need anger management classes. Guy you jutst need to be loved – NOT by ME – but with someone in your town – someone need to tell you they care for you once and awhile and mean it!

I believe that we create our own little universe with our thoughts, deeds, and emotions. Having patience and using that one minute to think about how you can be best used to help society instead of wasting it on anger(which could lead to high blood pressure etc.)Peaceful patience might be next in line for your life learning so just ride with the wave and send out loving helpful remarks and thoughts, you will find that your life will shift with your positive and patient thoughts. good luck much love and peace to you my friend