February 21, 2010
I’m Very Negative But I Want To Change;any Classes In London To Learn Anger,ego,better Attitude?positive Att?
I realise I’ve always been very negative. I also have a very congenial side – I make friends easily but when they get to know me they say I’m very cynical towards life. My family is/was like this. In the book “feel the fear and face it anyway” by Susan Jeffers she talks about a group of people who meet every day at 6:30 in the morning to encourage each other. How does one go about meeting such like minded people in London? I want to change my attitude to become positive, control my anger, pity, depressed nature, better life outlook? Any suggestions?
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1. Live more in the moment
Thinking about the past or the future is what we get anxious about. Rarely do we panic about the present moment. If you find yourself dwelling on something that either has already happened or has yet to occur, remind yourself that the only thing you have control over is the present. That’s really the only thing that counts. Be proactive and avoid seeing yourself as a victim of circumstance, Dennis says. “You can’t sit around waiting for someone to do something good for you. If you want something out of life you need to get out and get it.”
2. Practise positive affirmation
Tell yourself you are strong, says Dennis. Practise saying positive things about yourself over and over and over. In the morning, wake up and say something positive. Have that be your very first thought of the day. Even if you don’t believe it, or if it’s a harried Monday morning and you’ve woken up late for work, starting your day off with a positive affirmation will help set up your day on a good note.
3. Believe in the power of positive thinking
This one may seem pretty obvious, but it’s one that many people overlook. If you think positively, positive things will happen. “It’s a universal law, just like gravity,” Dennis says. Alternatively, if you are constantly thinking negative thoughts, don’t be surprised when negative things happen. It takes a tremendous amount of work to change our thinking to a positive frame of mind, but it’s worth all the effort, she says. “If you tell yourself your life is bad, it will be. It’s that simple.”
4. Don’t dwell
Look at what’s upsetting you, fix it and move on. If it’s already happened, you unfortunately can’t go back and change it, so dwelling on it and lamenting about what could or should have been is a waste of time and energy and just makes you feel worse about yourself. Accept whatever it is that happened and then move forward, Dennis says. It’s amazing how light you will feel after dropping some of your emotional baggage.
5. Focus on the positive
Start a gratitude journal, Dennis suggests. Whether in the morning or at night — or both — jot down five or six things you are grateful for. They can be big or small or something as simple as “It was sunny out today” or “I had a great lunch.” As long you do it on a regular, consistent basis it can help shift your negative thinking to positive. Whenever you’re feeling low, go back and read your journal to reaffirm all the great things you have in your life. When we feel negative we have a tendency to forget all about what we already have and focus instead on what we don’t.
6. Get moving
Exercise is paramount for feeling good because it releases endorphins, Dennis says. Whether its a walk around the block or a 10-kilometre run, activity makes us feel good in spite of ourselves. Chances are, if you’re feeling low and you do even 15 minutes of activity, you’ll feel better afterwards.
7. Face the fear
Negativity comes from fear, Dennis explains. “The more afraid of life you are, the more negative you tend to be.” If you fear something, do it anyway. Fear is a part of life, whether we like it or not, but we all have a choice as to whether to let it stop us. Facing our fears helps to build self-esteem.
8. Try new things
Being open to trying new things also helps to build self-esteem, Dennis explains. By saying yes to life you are giving yourself more opportunity to grow and learn. Avoid the “yes, but” mentality. New experiences, big or small, help make life more exciting and provide fulfilment.
9. Shift your perspective
When something doesn’t go well, find a way to reframe it in a more positive perspective. “In every challenge there’s a gift, and in every gift there’s a challenge,” Dennis explains. Even though it can be very difficult, try to look at the good that can come from challenges. Otherwise, it’s very easy to sink into despair or sadness. Do whatever you can to stay positive when times are tough.
This is you! Your own personality! You cannot change so quickly, but adjust your mind to become more open-minded!