My boyfriend is a compulsive liar looking for help…?
His lying has really taken its toll on our relationship. We are really in love and have been dating over 3 years and we have both realized that he cannot stop lying on his own, so he would like to get help. I was looking in the phonebook under counseling and psychologists, but I noticed that all of them say their for things such as eating disorders, stress management, self esteem, etc. None of them said anything about help with lying. Can just any counselor/psychologist help him with his problem or will he have to see someone that specializes in helping compulsive liars?
I have certainly been suffering alot, but he really seems like he wants to change. He has admitted that he has a problem, which is the first step to stopping. I don’t want to leave him because I care about him alot
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I don’t think you’ll find any specializing in that, but most of them could help him. Call and ask, and tell them what the problem is. They’ll tell you whether or not they can help him.
Does he want to quit lying? You are setting yourself up for a life of frustration if you hang in with him. He has no motivation to stop, nothing to lose and is making no effort to change. It all begins with a decision and with accountability.
Tell him you are out of his life unless he changes his ways. If he doesn’t change then get out of his life. Put it in a time frame so it doesn’t drag on forever. Find a honest guy who respects you. Your current boyfriend does not respect himself nor you.
Save yourself the grief. I don’t believe a compulsive liar can stop. To be with one is to suffer believe me.
There are some things in relationships that should never be tolerated.
This is not a psychological problem, this is a MORAL problem. I bet he is Russian, did I guess correctly?
you’re codependent, you’re allowing his problem to become your own, taking responsibility for something that is entirely his own, he’s playing you big time, making you think he can’t stop, that is a lie in of itself and you bought it hook, line, sinker, he’s making his problem become your problem and he’s probably tried to convince you that you have to change the way you respond to him so that he’ll be less tempted to lie, right?
you need help
being in a relationship with someone who cannot be honest is hopeless if you are looking for intimacy, love, and friendship because it takes honesty in every aspect of a healthy relationship, it takes courage, commitment and confidence for a person to be honest, and if he doesn’t have those qualities why would you waste your time?
his problem is nothing you can control, cure, control, you didn’t cause it and you can’t change it. you owe it to yourself to be with people you can count on to treat you with respect, and if you’re having sex with him, use protection, don’t put your life in his hands,
Love is not based on compulsive liars. Obviously his moral obligation is disordered. Sociopaths lie for reasons of self gain.
They are cunning and manipulative. Get out of the relationship, he has issues that a psychiatrist should address.