self improvement tips?

you would be surprise there are a lot of people with the same problem harboring the idea that people are constantly talking about them nothing could be further from the truth it all in their mind, the problem has to do With your self confidence around people to overcoming your problem I would make an appointment to see a councilor a group therapy will do the trick

I recommend you check out this social networking community called LetsReflect.com. There are people there going through situations similar to yours. They are great for advice and encouragement.

The process of Self Reflection has truly changed my life….here’s my profile. http://www.letsreflect.com/profile.php?userid=6

This is a journey….not a quick fix. The trick is staying positive and surrounding yourself with positive people. You are capable of great things! I believe in you. Best of luck.

Whatever your problem might be on all levels of your existence, there are certain steps you need to take to solve it in the best and creative way. One step follows the other and one can’t jump a step to have a faster result or because one doesn’t feel comfortable to do one necessary step that shows up as the next to take. There are steps that one can work on in a parallel way at the same time, but mostly they unfold one after the other.
Steps: If you want to solve a problem at a mechanical level, for example with your car, then you need to know how the car works in its various functions, about each piece and how they all work together, influencing each other in their function. That is logical and easy to understand, although people sometimes are manipulating their car without really knowing what they do, when they just treat a symptom.
Eliminating this then might cause a more serious damage at another part and even might destroy the motor! So it is more intelligent and probably cheaper to ask a professional about it and let him repair it if you don’t want to invest the time and energy to invest and learn about it profoundly, to be able to repair your car yourself.
In your case, even though one can compare the human system with something mechanical, it is more different in solving the problem at a psychic level. The first step is that one is aware of the problem that shows up, then the next is that one wants to solve it and so looks around to find a solution, that includes that one asks question and expects that one receives an answer from somebody who knows about it, that means a person who has enough experience to give information about what can help. At the best this is an information that can help so that one can help oneself. For this there are some basic conditions: One need to take self responsibility getting out of dependencies and one needs to be motivated enough and ready to go for it. That’s what you have done with your question. Now you are receiving an answer and it depends on how ready and open you are so that you can use my answer and others.
Let’s continue these thoughts: You need to know your system, so it will be necessary that to learn and investigate about it. You need to find out about every thing you can find about the ‘human system’ and ‘human nature’ in all aspects and on all levels. This is a serious work and it is involves your engagement and time. Are you willing for this? I hope that you don’t just prefer a ‘quick fix’ like most of people?
BeiYin
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