Should children be encouraged to dream big/set big goals or to live a simple, stable life?

Stable life because when they dont get thier they blame the person that told them to go big
i think if you just have them have simple dreams they will on thier own get big dreams and actually do it

Theres no answer to that, children will grow up and decide for themselves, the options you presented do not contradict each other either you can have both simple stable life and have a big goal.

Most children will change their dreams and goals many of times before they understand what they really want. The problems with encouraging them to dream big or set their goals high is, that end up doing it to please their parents, than anything at all. Then there’s a chance of putting them into a tremendous stress before they are old enough to handle such stress – which can cause certain disfunction.
It is fined to give them encouragements when they dream of their aspirations – how long that may last, if it doesn’t. It just has to be their dreams not the dream of their parents or the parents’ dream for their children.

Stability is what they are most likely going to pattern with what they see from their parents or from other that they decide to pattern their own stability.

Sure, there’s nothing bad about it, but don’t put too much expectations on your children, they’ll probably force themsleves to be the best. Some of my classmates are honor students, but they hate being honor students, because there’s too much responsibility, their parents are expecting too much from them, even if they can’t do what their parents told them to do, They’ll still tell them to do it.

Teach them to set goals big or small so that they have a direction in their life and be able to know what they really want in life to inspire them to move on with their life because they have something to look forward to.