Arrogance

July 5, 2010

What is a good way to build self confidence without crossing the line into arrogance?

I am a 31 year old guy that is not ugly or goofy(in fact, my closest friends think that I’m pretty cool), but I am shy when it comes to introductions. I have a natural tendancy to approach every aspect of my life with the desire to do my best, but I trained myself to remain humble…no matter how good I become. I sink down into myself whenever I get a compliment.
When I was in my early teenage years, I was picked on by the pretty people (you know, the popular ones whose parents were obsessed with how well their kids turned out). These kids were the ones that always got their asses kissed. Anyway, I made an oath to never be like those whom I despised, and now I’m stuck.

So here I am…All these years later… trapped by my conditioning.
I know that it takes baby steps to start the path of improvement, and I am looking for the right stimuli.

What Is The Difference Between Self-esteem And Arrogance?

When you meet someone who feels that they are attractive, are they demonstrating positive self-esteem or arrogance?
When you meet someone who feels that they are intelligent, are they demonstrating positive self-esteem or arrogance?
When you meet someone who feels that they are a good person, are they demonstrating positive self-esteem or arrogance?
Where do *you* draw the line between positive self-esteem and arrogance?