I am a 31 year old guy that is not ugly or goofy(in fact, my closest friends think that I’m pretty cool), but I am shy when it comes to introductions. I have a natural tendancy to approach every aspect of my life with the desire to do my best, but I trained myself to remain humble…no matter how good I become. I sink down into myself whenever I get a compliment.
When I was in my early teenage years, I was picked on by the pretty people (you know, the popular ones whose parents were obsessed with how well their kids turned out). These kids were the ones that always got their asses kissed. Anyway, I made an oath to never be like those whom I despised, and now I’m stuck.
So here I am…All these years later… trapped by my conditioning.
I know that it takes baby steps to start the path of improvement, and I am looking for the right stimuli.
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It seems like what little self esteem I have left is easily shattered by the smallest things people do. How do I build it up and make sure it won’t go down if someone challenges me, humiliates me or the like?
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The Self-Esteem Companion: Simple Exercises to Help You Challenge Your Inner Critic and Celebrate Your Personal StrengthsSelf-esteem is an important part of leading a happy, fulfilling life. How we feel about ourselves affects every aspect of our lives, from the way w... Read More >
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Well, its like this i want to hang with more women, talk on the phone, take care of myself more(hair, nails, toes) go shopping(something is always due) save and have fun i want to keep my hair done and look good all the time and i know its work but i get less motivated to do those things . I have no friends so where do i start?
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100 Ways To Motivate Yourself: Change Your Life ForeverIn this first-ever paperback edition of his long-time best-seller, motivational speaker Steve Chandler helps you create an action plan for living your... Read More >
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i really want to build my self confidence and self esteem.does talking to yourself in a mirror build that.and when i do this do i talk to myself out loud or silently.i dont want anyone to hear me.and what do i say to myself in a mirror,i dont know what to say,and really want to try this.
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Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your ShameHealing Your Emotional Self"Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-e... Read More >
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My confidence and esteem took a serious blow with my last relationship. I never knew the effects of lying and cheating on someone was far more reaching than hurt feelings. Long story but trust me when I say I have no confidence and zero esteem. What are some things I can do to help rebuild that? Some ways that doesn’t involve dating, that’s kinda what got me in this mess in the first place. In other words, I’d like to rebuild my self esteem before I start dating again, that way I won’t pick another loser. Any suggestions?
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I'm Gonna Like Me: Letting Off a Little Self-EsteemCelebrate liking yourself! Through alternating points of view, a girl's and a boy's, Jamie Lee Curtis's triumphant text and Laura Cornell's lively ... Read More >
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i’m in the eight grade and i had a terrible experience in middle school. i basically have no friends and my self esteem and confidence is at an all-time low. i have a girl that i walk to classes with, but i really don’t think she considers me a friend. i sit with her and 2 other girls at lunch, and i’m always under the impression that they don’t like me. i want some more confidence, and i need a better self-esteem. any tips?
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hey- im a 15 yearsold guy and i would like some help in developing my self-confidence and esteem in making good friendships with the others guys in my grade. I am somewhat confident with the girls. But I want to be making many good relationships being confident and most importantly myself. I want more respect also- please help! thankyou!
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My whole life school has been hell, and now I’m finally leaving.
My question is, how do I build up my self esteem? I let it be brought down so much by other people. I always feel paranoid, and I’m convinced something is wrong with me.
So how do I build it from literally nothing at all? I need to be strong to survive in this world. I just don’t know how.
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Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your ShameHealing Your Emotional Self"Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-e... Read More >
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I have the worst time management skills. I am constantly putting stuff off to the last minute. At work, I wait until something HAS to be done before I really get going.
Does anyone know of any good tips or advice for combating this issue?
Thank you,
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my self esteem is very low. In theory i know there are good things about me- but i feel a constant pressure to be superhuman and the best, and hate myself for always falling short of my expectations. How do i just learn to like who i am, and start showing that to people, instead of constantly worrying?
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The Lovables in the Kingdom of Self-Esteem (Loomans, Diane)A charming book filled with characters that children can relate to while learning the qualities of a positive self-image. Thirty-two pages of full color illustrations.
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