I have a fear of intimacy perhaps because i m low on self esteem.My biggest fear that leads to my fear of intimacy is that i m afraid i wont be able to come up to the standards of my boy friend…i might end up doing something that will turn him off. Because of that i mostly remain reserved while talking to him…am not much responsive… which he might take as my rudeness or lack of etiquetts…i m afraid to express my feelings for him though i dearly love him! please help me overcome that… suggestions about any books or websites is welcomed.
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Hi.
I live in a small town, and have been home-schooled (although I think my education is lacking and that I’d benefit more from going to regular school, but I don’t due to laziness and fear) my entire life, so I never really went out and did things.
Due to this, I’ve developed a rather lazy personality. I know that I should go out and interact with the world, but I don’t.
Due to my lazy personality, I’ve developed poor time management skills (for example, I might spend four hours on the computer, two hours listening to music, and only an hour doing something that’s actually productive).
Due to laziness and poor time management skills, I’ve developed a rather powerful fear. Fear of being judged. Fear of continuing down this path of nothingness. Fear of failure, mostly.
Now I’m nearly an adult and I don’t have any friends (unless you count family), I don’t know how to drive, and I don’t have a job.
I want to change things, but I’m stuck in this lazy, fearful rut and I know that while it will be hard, I can get out of it. I just don’t know how.
So any advice that anyone can give me will be extremely appreciated.
Thanks.
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Reality Check on your self esteem…
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We all have our up and down days, but to me the very notion of having an “up” day seems pretty unrealistic. I cannot really explain this feeling that I have but I am afraid of being happy because that I try to even think positive, something negative always comes up and overshadows it. Since this apparently isn’t going to stop anytime soon I just deliberately think about depressing things so that I won’t be afraid or disappointed. But are there any better methods for overcoming this fear?
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