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June 15, 2010

What are steps I can take to stop having a self defeatist attitude?

I have had a negative attitude towards my self for as long as I can remember, even my grandmother commented about me being hard on myself at 3 years old. I dont want to accept that this is part of my personality, and I can’t change it. The attitude that I deserve punishment when I fail anyone’s expectations and that I expect to fail needs to stop. I don’t know where to start really, has anyone else dealt with the same thing or know how to become a more positive and self loving person?

Am I setting myself up for failure by having too many goals at once?

I want to lose weight, make over my appearance, set a general career path for myself and get a job, improve my marriage, get over my shyness and lack of self-confidence and get out of debt. I’ve decided that I want to start trying to accomplish all of those things starting tomorrow. Do I need to let some of those go by the wayside at least temporarily?

How do I get motivation, when having a job, no matter what it is makes me really depressed and bored?

Having money, being “successful”, and having responsibility are supposedly things that are supposed to make my life “fulfilling”.(according to my parents and friends) But, I just don’t really enjoy life when I am working. I don’t know what to do!

What is the difference between having anger management issues and being bipolar?

and how does one find out if they are bipolar?
needing better answers please.
thanks you 2.

How can i stop having such low self esteem?

During the school year i had such low self esteem i mean i see myself as a fat assed whore with no guy and no friends who want to talk to me during the summer i mean just feel ugly.
What can i do?

What is so wrong about not having any goals in life?

I’ve always believed in the notion of destiny, and that life will take care of itself..It used to but not anymore. I’ve never set any goals, and devised any plans to reach them. Lately, I’ve come to the realization that I’m lucky to obtain a bachelor degree, and have a job, and be able to lead a life. I went to a college ‘cauz I found its catalog in my mailbox. I majored in mathematics, not knowing I want to do with it. I took a tons of private loans to finance my education, with the hope that I will eventually get a great job to pay it back. I’m now 25 years old, and I still haven’t figure out what I want to do with my life. I honestly don’t know where I’d like to be one, two, three or five years from now. For one thing, I know that I have to change that mindset. I have to set goals, but that’s something we have developed over the years. And that’s something we find within. I’ve always done things as they come along. I was quite satistied with everything. But lately, I’ve been having that feeling of emptiness. I’ve never had any passions or showed any enthusiasms about anything. I was hoping that one day I would wake up, and things would just change. I know that the problem is within, and I’m the only one who can fix it..Has anyone felt that way, and was able to change? or has anyone known someone who felt the same way, and was able to change? Life is supposed to have a purpose..and make it meaningful one needs to have goals, and set plans to reach them..I’m not suicidal or depressed, but I dont wanna reach that point. I’m doing all I can to be reasonable and happy..but I can’t keep living like this.

I’m Having A Hard Time Setting Goals For My Self. How Do You Stay Inspired To Achieve Your Goals?

Discipline and mental toughness. You can also write down goals and give yourself a time frame to achieve them by.

Is Saying “do Whatever The Hell You Want” Having A Positive Attitude?

If you think it does, you have issues.

Can A Person Still Live A Happy Life Without Having Any Other Human Being Like Him?

Is it possible? Let’s say that a person has never been accepted by other people. No one ever wanted to be his/her friend, can a person go on living happy alone?