More detail – you have a male mate, and he notices an attractive woman – maybe a picture of one, one on TV, or one just walking down the street. Not that he doesn’t find you very attractive, because you already know that he does. So then, you notice that he becomes very happy by observing how attractive this other woman is. Should you be happy for him since he is so happy? If you are not happy for him, then are you being selfish, egotistical, insecure and self-centered?
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I have a huge question and I’ve been wondering this.
Sometimes seeing the real thing, that things suck, getting angry frustrated over them, makes us push towards better things.
Take a bad job for example, a negative attitude, would make one’s life miserable while there and might even get us fired, but what if that is the motivation we need to strive for better jobs?
Wouldn’t staying positive just make us comform with the present and maybe not look for better things since we are “already happy” without them?
What do you think?
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What I mean is, for things to change positively.
For instance,
A person suffering through a depression who wants to overcome it should change their views and their attitudes in order for them to make a successful recovery.
Or,
Someone who doesn’t have many friends because of his roguish behavior and no one trusts him, should change his attitude and be more open and polite in order for people to respect him.
And even in a bad neighborhood or apartment complexes where there’s constant evictions, violence, threats, and drugs involved and the community and managers need to change their attitudes to make it a safer place.
Also if a high school student is failing and doesn’t really care, but notices that because of his carelessness, it’s tearing him and his family apart and getting him nowhere in life except with people who make even worse decisions such as doing drugs or being apart of a violent group. He should change his attitude and get his education in order for him to feel successful and happy.
So is it true, in that sense, that you must change your attitude about certain things in order to make a positive change?
Or is there another way of explaining it?
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My boy friend has been a real ass lately and every little thing has been getting on his nerves as if he’s on his man period. i don’t want to be a controlling nag, but i also don’t want to just sit back and watch him get mad at everything. what should i do?
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i’ve struggled with social anxiety from age 19. i’m taking courses at an university and would like to minor in psychology. i want to work in a health care field…as a consultant. it would be beneficial if I could completely overcome my anxiety disorder. what psychology courses could i take that will help me understand the underlining causes of my disorder? what courses will help me challenge my irrational fears…help me see people in a more positive light…instead of distrustful way.
Example of Courses at my university:
Personal Growth
Childhood Psychopathology
Health Psychology
Lifespan Developmental Psychology
Cognitive Psychology
Behavioral Medicine
Abnormal Psychology
Stress Management
Behavior Modification
Theories of Personality
Psychobiology
Principles of Biofeedback
Social Psychology
Foundations of Child and Adolescent Psychology
any other courses not mentioned that you may know about, please list also. Thank you.
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I think I have log esteem or when i’m confident about something, it takes little to pop that little head of mine.
I don’t want to be arrogant, but just confident.
And yes I dp appear to sort of have low self esteem at the moment.
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If it’s you or someone you know who needs to control their temper and you don’t want to see a counselor immediately, what should they do?
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I have a high self-esteem. I just want to know how I can keep it that way,because when I grow up I want to be an actress/singer and I don’t want the critics to lower my self-esteem. What should I don to practice keeping my self-esteem high?
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I know other people would tell me the relationship I am in or really want to be in is crazy and unrealistic. Everyone says to do what makes you happy. I guess I’ve been trying to live up to my family’s expectations too long. They say they don’t have any, but they do.
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Like things you should avoid doing to make your self esteem even worse.
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