Most people I know with quite low self esteem believe both that they don’t matter very much to anyone and also that other people must talk about them all the time (negatively).
It’s a strange combination.
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Within the past week Yahoo Mail has been weird. Either can’t get access to view mail or get the oddest looking page that’s spread out in large font all over the place.
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land of crops, of Fords and farms.
Suzy lives in New York City,
land of cops and car alarms.
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OR BRIAN WITH HIS DRINKING PROBLEMS? OR PETER WITH BIPOLAR? WHO NEEDS TREATMENT MORE?
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I need to be able to get shopping checklists, event planners, menu planners, etc?
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Also, do you have low or high self esteem?
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I have my own belief about this, and I feel strongly about my belief, but now that my little boy is growing up and getting to a “punishable” age, I’m always confronted with a slew of punishments that are approved to teach good behavior. So, is it possible to raise a happy, respectful, smart, and (obviously) well behaved child with out using punishments?
I guess this’ll have to be an “in your opinion” question, unless you post the facts/research to back it up.
Thanks.
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Do you think Bea did well in starting the day off in the house with a positive attitude only to end it be being negative? can she be anything but negative or is she obsesses by negativity?you decide.
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Ok, i own a house and do have good credit. I have never been late on a payment. I understand all the risks involved in using credit cards. My goal is to set up automatic payments from all my monthly bills (phone, internet, gas, electric, MORTGAGE, HOA, car, etc.) as well as use my credit card to pay for EVERYTHING. My goal is not to run up the balance or use it irresonsibly (sp). I just want to use my card like cash and pay it off each month. Hopefully, this will help me build better credit and EARN REWARDS (cashback, travel, miles, etc.). I want to consolidate all my bills and expenses into one payment on my credit card, and pay it off each month. Do credit card companies allow this? Is there anything i’m overlooking that won’t allow me to do this? thank you
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There are always those people who are just relentlessy cheery and optimistic. Their lives don’t seem all that different or better than anyone else’s except for their positive outlooks. It seems to me that is just their personality. I, on the other hand, have alway tended to be a “glass half empty” type of person, bordering on cynicism. Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean I’m a whiny complainer type, I just tend to view things on the negative (I think realistic) side first. I really don’t have anything to complain about, I just think it is a part of my innate personality to be pessimistic.
Do you think that optimism can really be learned, or is it just something you are born with?
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Any time we find ourselves in a situation where we are “required” (whether we are court-ordered or choose to attend such classes voluntarily) to change something about ourselves, we get frustrated. It’s natural. It doesn’t matter whether we are in the situation because we want to be or not, we will get frustrated even when we *want* change to occur. I am not implying that you may or may not want to be in an anger management class. I’m simply stating that frustration is a normal part of the range of human emotions. The key is in learning how to deal with emotions we’ve so far only learned to mismanage in one way or another.
Because frustration can trigger anger, frustration is a bit more difficult to deal with for those who have trouble managing anger. In an anger management class, you will have to face situations that will make you frustrated so that you can learn how to manage it. In these types of learning environments, you can’t just “talk about” how you would manage frustration, you have to get frustrated to see how you will learn to manage it in a new way. Being put in *controlled* (class) situations where you will get frustrated, and potentially angry, is how you will gain access to the tools needed to manage that anger.
It helps to observe your frustration in an impartial way. Say to yourself, “Oh, look, notice here, self, you’re getting frustrated now. How does that *really* feel? Why am I so frustrated? Do I really have to react to this thing in this way? Is this thing something that *requires* that I get frustrated?” etc., ad infinitum. It *is* possible to separate cognitive functions from emotional activities. This is how you learn to self-regulate, to manage emotions. You allow yourself to feel them, but you also don’t “react” to those emotions. You learn how to *act on* them instead, and this requires a separation of cognitive reasoning and emotional feeling. It takes a LOT of practice. But it is very much do-able.
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