What are the best ways of building self esteem?

Find some things that you are really good at. Maybe you have a talent of some kind which you can share with other people. I felt that way too when I was about that age. I found I was good at certain things, like general music and singing. That kept my confidence up quite a bit. I used to sing solos in school in front of big audiences. That will cure you of the negatives pretty quick, especially if they really like you! I would start with that first and see what you come up with.

Start thinking about all of the things that you’re good at, and remind yourself of those things when you start to have low self-esteem. Also, learn some new things or pick up some new hobbies that you think that you will be good at and will enjoy, and it will give you more things to feel confident in yourself about. It can be especially helpful to try to have hobbies or skills that also help other people, like making stuff for people, repairing stuff that is broken, and stuff like that.

You cn pray about it. Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end — time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God’s Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God’s blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can’t explain the world’s natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner’s prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: “Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus’ name, amen.” I’m Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God’s will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.

I’m sorry to hear that. I sympathize with your situation.

In my experience, I would say 3 things are important:

1) Have a support network of some kind – people who will be your cheerleaders. If your parents are out of the question or you don’t have a few good friends to turn to, get a therapist.
2) Next try some new activities you’re interested in. Ideally, something to take you out of your current comfort zone. A sport? A martial art? Painting? Just start small. Growth occurs in baby steps, not leaps and bounds.
3) If you fall down, get back up and try again. An instructor once told me, “fall down twice, get up 3 times”. That advice has served me well.

And remember, as a little kid Michael Phelps was afraid of the water, so the first stroke he mastered was the backstroke. But with the right attitude, training, and support now look at him.

Good luck!

Hi Andrew!

Have you heard about The Emotional Freedom Technique? It works really well on negative emotions and you should give it a try.

It is free, quick to learn and works amazingly, trust me!

I used to have low self esteem, now I want to help people learn about EFT so they can be happy too.

If you register on the official site you get the free manual which you can learn for yourself.