What Can I Do To Make My Life Better So That I Can Be Happy?

I was once in that same situation. First of all you must get your priorities in order (YOUR KIDS). I wanted to date,so I got my kids on a good schedule. I focused on them being asleep by 8:00 at night. When I was successful, that is the time I accepted company. Whoever you choose will probably be with you. Don’t put that on the kids because a good man will not care if you have kids. I found that if you start the kids’ day early, let them outside for some real playtime, give them a good meal(come in from work and cook or start precooking meals), wash them up, then put them to bed (I let them think that they could watch cartoons in bed, it took 5-10 and they were sleep)….They will go to sleep. Be choosey!!! Because you don’t want just anyone around your kids. Working is good. This means that you can take care of yourself. If the first man you choose is wrong….HOLLER “NEXT”….and keep going until you meet one that you can work with. You’ll be surprised. (Meanwhile, try to network with another mother that’s in the same situation or a smart teenage babysitter or a family member if you can. Get out of the house sometimes….save a few dollars to pay if you can….BUT ALWAYS WORK ON THAT FIRST THING!!!

I applaude you. It takes a strong person to do that. Just think of everyday as a blessing that you and your children are healthy, and that you have each other. It’s hard not to be depressed, when things are tough. I believe you’ll pull through, don’t let the little things stress you out, it will affect your kids. Think positive, I’m sure there is someone out there for you, that will love you for you, and appreciate it. Be well:)

You know, talking to a psychiatrist isn’t a bad idea. They really can perform miracles. They can boost your self-esteem and make you feel better about yourself and your life and help you to appreciate other people and things you have. You can try that and even getting a new job. Take a risk. I know there’s a happiness inside of you that’s just waiting to bloom. Good luck!

THINK POSITIVE!!!! The next time you are feeling depressed be thankful for what you have. You have kids that love you, friends and family. You have your health (unless you had cancer like me). The next time something negitive happens name 2 positives… the kid threw up, I have kids, I have my whole life to watch him/her grow up. If you aren’t able to make ends meet that month remember that you have love of your kids, that you HAVE a house….maybe a car…..and a job….and your health.

I suggest you quit feeling sorry for yourself, set goals for yourself and achieve them. Go to school and get a better job. Feeling sorry for yourself, which is exactly what you are doing, is NOT the answer. It’s YOUR fault for getting pregnant. Deal with it.

I would like to suggest a wonderful book by Dr. John Demartini called “Count Your Blessings”. It helps us understand the value and benefits in things as they are at the moment, AND how to use our present situation to build a better future.
You can order the book from Amazon.com
I think you have more strength and courage than you recognize. Give yourself credit for what you are achieving as a single mom with two children – that’s hard! Most importantly, you are not satisfied with your current situation and you are motivated to change it. These are blessings worth counting and you can use them as a ‘positive springboard’ to move forward.
Best wishes and good luck!

You could try to find a better paying job so that you don’t have to work so many hours. It takes some time to do that but it will be worth the time you invest in doing so. I know the job market is rough but it is possible if you are persistent. Maybe join a group activity that involves other single parents so that you can meet other people in your situation. You would get to spend time with your kids and meet people at the same time.

Do you have a current boy friend who seems to love you?
Who seems to enjoy being with you, even though, maybe not
very communicative? Someone who likes your daughter and you both, but doesn’t tell you often? Someone you enjoy doing things with, whose usually good to you and her? Does everyone you know, think the two of you are perfect, for each other? Or if not, did you betray someone like that? If you know of such a man,and you really want someone to help you with the children, including the current child, marry him! I gurantee you, that is the solution- it might be hard but don’t let that stop you. And do it at all costs. Nobody should have to have 2 jobs, and not have time for the kids.

if you really want to be happy, God will help you when you ask for it

k well you could try to ask one of your friends for help or you could move to a different neighbor hood that doesnt charge so much for rent. you could also try to learn something and try to aply for a better job. also when you wake up in the morning you should tell yourself that everything will be great. put a smile on your face and you will feel alot better.