Why Do I Get Frustrated With Anger Management Class?
Any time we find ourselves in a situation where we are “required” (whether we are court-ordered or choose to attend such classes voluntarily) to change something about ourselves, we get frustrated. It’s natural. It doesn’t matter whether we are in the situation because we want to be or not, we will get frustrated even when we *want* change to occur. I am not implying that you may or may not want to be in an anger management class. I’m simply stating that frustration is a normal part of the range of human emotions. The key is in learning how to deal with emotions we’ve so far only learned to mismanage in one way or another.
Because frustration can trigger anger, frustration is a bit more difficult to deal with for those who have trouble managing anger. In an anger management class, you will have to face situations that will make you frustrated so that you can learn how to manage it. In these types of learning environments, you can’t just “talk about” how you would manage frustration, you have to get frustrated to see how you will learn to manage it in a new way. Being put in *controlled* (class) situations where you will get frustrated, and potentially angry, is how you will gain access to the tools needed to manage that anger.
It helps to observe your frustration in an impartial way. Say to yourself, “Oh, look, notice here, self, you’re getting frustrated now. How does that *really* feel? Why am I so frustrated? Do I really have to react to this thing in this way? Is this thing something that *requires* that I get frustrated?” etc., ad infinitum. It *is* possible to separate cognitive functions from emotional activities. This is how you learn to self-regulate, to manage emotions. You allow yourself to feel them, but you also don’t “react” to those emotions. You learn how to *act on* them instead, and this requires a separation of cognitive reasoning and emotional feeling. It takes a LOT of practice. But it is very much do-able.
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What (involving other people telling you what to do) doesn’t frustrate you?
I don’t know why you’re there, but it sounds like you are where you need to be at this point in your life.
Make the best of it, listen close, they might say something you’ve been waiting to hear.
Obviously, the class is not being run well. Go try to find a different one.
its boring and you feel that you dont need to be there.
Because they’re so bloody inane! ( Not insane, inane)
Firstly, because you have an anger management problem. You automatically get frustrated easily, and it’s not your fault or choice.
It could also be because you’re frustrated that you’re getting frustrated in the first place. You want an instant-cure for your anger problem, and get frustrated that it takes so long.
Your instructor/teacer (whatever they call them) may also frustrate you, because they normally talk to patients as if they’re insipid little children.