Why Do Some Girls Have Really Low Self Esteem And Think That They Are Ugly?

my guess would be that she got bullied, it implants a seed that is hard to un-root by oneself,

This is not something that is restricted to just girls – many boys also feel the same way. The possible reasons for low self-esteem and self-confidence are as many, varied and complex as people themselves. Often such feelings can be traced back to how the person was raised, the kind of family support and love (or lack thereof) that they experienced, being bullied or teased at school, and so on. Often, as small children, they are told by others that they are worthless or bad or ugly or whatever. If you tell a small child something often enough, they will eventually come to believe it.
It really is very sad, and the best thing you can do for someone like this is to always treat them with kindness, dignity and equality and give them positive feedback and reinforcement whenever you can.

Probably because she is/was teased and told by others she is ugly; this is very sad but kids can be cruel….
The best thing you can do for her is compliment her and be sincere about it; she is not likely to change quickly or maybe at all if this negative thinking has been programed into her for many years, but at least you know you are doing your part to make her feel appreciated. maybe take her mind off her appearance and do some fun stuff with her, hang out with her and talk to her about things that she likes to do. Make her laugh. She will probably be much happier if you surround her with supportive friends.

I’m a bit like this and always have been. But people always tell me im pretty etc but as soon as I look in the mirror I cant see it. I used to be really bad but now I just dont worry. Im stuck with this body what can I do haha.
Ive also been pretty reserved, coz Im really tall (6’1) (Im a girl) and I never like standing out. But now I just think **** it, I’ll do what I want. Most girls are tall now days anyways

there could be a lot of reasons why
maybe she had some bad experience
maybe she’z a really pessimistic kinda pesron
maybe her family is not very nice
maybe people call her ugly
but if you’re really her friend, say nice stuff. point out her good sides. that.. by the way.. isnt going to change her mind about herself, she’ll still say crap about herself, but it would help in making her less emo-ish. praise her when shes done something good. tell her to look on the bright side!!!!

i m in the same situation, i think it all comes from ur closest first, ur family and relatives, if ur family tells u, u r fat and ur hair dont look good, ur face is so dark and bla bla bla bla then the person starts to think themselves as in negative, they usually stop talking to other people, not outgoing, just want to be alone, as i do, bez i am going through the same situation.

Yes it’s true…& sad @ the same time, We feel that way because of many reason’s some which are sprouted from bad experience growing up, bulling at school, being dumped for the prettier “package,” lack of attention….need I go on? Some of the worse things that people can say to you can sometimes leave an impression to the point of actually believing it!! And thats the reason we are our worst critics. Doe’s anyone agree with me?….I hope this helps you.

Girls get their feelings about their selves from magazines and viewing other girls at school. She needs to do her best to change her feelings about how she looks by changing her looks. Maybe go have her hair tented or something like that.

I am the same way, and it is simply because people have picked out the negative things about me before so therefore i tend to obsess over it.

Because society puts a tremendous amount of pressure on women to look a certain way.

becuase we see girls much more attractive, and just wish we were that beautiful too
mayebe when your friend says that, point out some good things to make her feel better

Could be the way they were raised. Some people have difficulty
raising their kids to recognize their own worth.

there is more pressure on you from society if you are a girl.

because of society and the media.
you don’t know how hard we girls have it, everyone expects us to look like megan fox .

Because people make fun of us. Or did when we were younger.

Because in today soicety where all told how to look… We get picked on if were not thin or popular.. T.v and magizenes are the reason why us average looking people hate our looks…

Look at where we live. look at society. hollywood says image is everything. every girl is as pretty as she thinks she is. All hollywood is skinny girls who are 98 pounds with plastic faces and boobs. what happened to real beauty? marlin monroe was liek a size 12 or 14 and she was gorgous. I am 5’3 and a size 9/11. i am not a skinny girl but i have curves, a great rack and a hot ***. i am real. this girl is probably real. i have never been in love and have never had a guy tell me how pretty i am and mean it in more of a loving way. You should let this girl know she needs to love herself and feel pretty. she needs to not care what others think. we only need to be pretty to ourselves. we need to make the change of what beauty is. please help this girl, no girl needs to feel unpretty.

I always wondered why ugly girls have high self esteem and think there all that!

maybe fishing for compliments and attention